Why does this happen

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Registered: 03-10-2004
Why does this happen
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Fri, 11-14-2008 - 7:32am

Things seem to be getting a lot better in my marriage. We are communicating better and seem to be happier. We had a lot of issue but slowly we changing for the better. So why is it I am starting to have doubt and looking to the past issues again. It seems like no matter what good happens I always find my self reviewing past incidents and fearful something will go wrong. Where does this come from and how do you move forward?


Not sure if I actually introduced myself on this board but I have been married for 4

 

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 11-14-2008 - 12:05pm
Let me introduce myself as well. My name is Robin, married nearly 13 years with 2 sons, ages 8 & 9. I'm glad to hear things have been going better. I'm not surprised that the old doubts have surfaced. Old habits(such as insecurity or doubts) or bad cycles are hard to change, Christian or not. These things take time. Whenever these doubts spring up, say a prayer to God thanking him for allowing you to get past those things, for forgiveness, then lay them back at His feet. Satan will do his best to trip you up but know that doubt is not of God. Worry is not of God. True forgiveness doesn't remember. This is hard to practice but is essential to complete healing. ((HUGS)) Continue to pray and lift this up to God. He hears his children. I'll be praying for you too.

Your sister in Christ,


Robin

Robin

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Registered: 03-10-2004
Sun, 11-16-2008 - 7:03am
Thank you and I am going to attempt to take your advice but you are right it is

 

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Registered: 02-01-2007
Tue, 11-18-2008 - 8:32am

Hi I am Jenny, married to Rob for 15 years. I think what you are feeling is very normal. I agree completely with Robin and suggest prayer. My husband is Navy and I have found that deployment seems to increase those feelings. I think it has something to do with limited communication and just plain feeling left behind and lonely. Try to be honest with him about your feelings but also be sure to let him know you want to work through them. Keep praying and ask specifically for God to help you let go of old feelings. I pray you do find some peace and that your marriage just continues to grow stronger.






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Registered: 03-10-2004
Tue, 11-18-2008 - 9:02am
Thanks for the advice. I agree it may be worse cause he is deployed and this is our second back to back deployment. We have only been together consistently for about 4months since Jan 07. I am going to continue to pray so that I can find some peace and try to think positive thoughts.

 

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Registered: 04-27-2003
Tue, 11-18-2008 - 9:45am

Hi!

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Registered: 03-25-2003
Thu, 11-20-2008 - 9:54am

Hi,


It sounds to me that you are experiencing something that many of us

"I know my plans for you"declares the Lord. "Plans to prosper you,  and not to harm you. Plans to give you hope and a future" Jeremiah 29:11