Advice on how to deal with difficult SIL?

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Registered: 03-20-2012
Advice on how to deal with difficult SIL?
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Tue, 03-20-2012 - 10:31am

Hey everyone-

I was hoping for some unbiased advice in regards to how to handle a situation between my SIL and I. When she started dating my brother a few years ago we became very close, to the point where I considered her one of my Best Friends. Two years ago I found out through several people that she was instigating an argument between myself and our mutual friend. I found out she was playing both "sides" and was adding fuel to the fire. After I found this out, I stepped back and looked at my behavior and apologized to my friend. The more I looked at my behavior the more I wanted to change how I presented myself, by avoiding gossip, drama and cattiness. I had a frank discussion with

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Registered: 05-19-2008
Tue, 03-20-2012 - 10:56am

I think you have to just continue to take the steps you are taking.

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Registered: 03-20-2012
Tue, 03-20-2012 - 11:12am

She is my friend on Facebook, which is another way she tries to involve herself to much. It is very annoying, if I talk to a mutual friend or family member she will try and get involved. She has also found me on Pinterest (my new favorite obsession), which I had wanted to keep as a private website, instead of a social type of thing. I try really hard not to be mean, but I feel as if I am being backed into a corner most of the time.

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Registered: 10-11-2005
Wed, 03-21-2012 - 4:40am
teamgreen0523 wrote:

She is my friend on Facebook, which is another way she tries to involve herself to much. It is very annoying, if I talk to a mutual friend or family member she will try and get involved. She has also found me on Pinterest (my new favorite obsession), which I had wanted to keep as a private website, instead of a social type of thing. I try really hard not to be mean, but I feel as if I am being backed into a corner most of the time.

I would put her on a limit amout list. That way you can control what she is seeing of your wall.

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