Back again and I am posting this time asking you all how to be happy with my inlaws living with me
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|Mon, 11-18-2013 - 7:27am|
I have posted my situation a few times regarding specific incidents maybe about the inlaws but I was hoping you all would help with the larger picture.
We are originally from India and Dh and his brother are the two kids for my ILs. As soon as the grandkids were being born, ILs started visiting us and now they have migrated here with citizenship. At first it was all nice and cute but now I think they should go back to their lives in India ( I think dual citizenship is allowed but that's not the point). They have a home there and a great social life but they keep staying with us 6- 8 months at a time. I really cherish my privacy without anyone asking me,"where are you going now? Didn't you just come back from the store? When did you buy this new pant?" etc etc.
The problem is ILSs are nice folks, MIL will cook and FIl will watch the kids. But MIL is also gossipy and sorta follows me around the house - they live their lives through us now. The general expectation is we will take them wherever we go etc. BIL/SIL/Dh are happy with them staying with us for 6 months at a stretch and I am the one who cannot deal with ILs 24/7.
So how can I mentally be at peace with them in the house? I do work p/t and I take kids around for their activities, so I am out of the house quite a bit. But this is still not enough for me. I keep telling myself they are in their 70s (but in good health) and it is my duty to care for them but this doesn't cut it. Can you all give me words of wisdom to reconcile myself to this situation?
Thank you so much,