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children left out of will
| Tue, 01-30-2007 - 11:19pm |
My husband's uncle has been a bachelor all of his life. He likes our middle son best and it is sounding like he is the only one of our three boys in his will. My husband says it is none of his business and there isn't anything he can do. If he says anything to his uncle then none of them will get anything. I told him I'd rather have it be nothing at all than to have our other two sons get hurt by this. I love my children equally, and I am deeply upset by this. HELP!!!

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Personally, I would not allow my kids to be around people who consider them lazy and stupid. And there is NO law that says you have to be civil to this man. You don't HAVE to go around him at all. I also question why your husband sees him and can "get along" with someone who badmouths his children. Stay away and keep your kids away, end of story.
I don't think you are stupid and would never imply such a thing. But, I still think that the man's estate and will are none of anyone's business, except his. I also disagree that if your one son is given an inheritance, that he should be made to share. Like I said before, the sooner you get over this "everything must be FAIR and equal" thing and your kid learn that life is never equal or always fair, the better off you all will be.
I did not realize that your uncle badmouths two of your children. If you posted that and I missed that, I apologize. I never said you were stupid. If you feel stupid, that is something that you need to deal with. I am not accountable for how other people feel.
You can express your feelings here at Ivillage. However, it doesn't mean that others will agree with you and/or support what your situation is. That goes for everyone that posts. When anyone posts for advice, they take a chance that there will be people who will agree with what they situation is and be on their side and there may be others who agree somewhat. Also, there may be others who don't agree whatsoever may choose to express that.
Lastly, I agree with the others who said that they don't understand why you let your sons socialize with someone who talks that way about them. Of course, that is your choice, but I don't see how that is productive for your children.
Again, just my opinion.
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Edited 2/2/2007 11:51 am ET by cl-stretch123
"I told my husband, just please convince him that our other two boys are NOT stupid! That really hurts me"
You said it yourself, this Uncle enjoys being pig-headed, and admires others who are just like him. So that means no one is going to convince him of anything. If your husband finds a way to make a pig-headed old man change his mind, then I hope you will share his technique with the rest of us! It will be like a miracle cure! Best of luck to you, dear. It's good to see a momma bear who cares for her cubs this way. But we all must know when to let go.
Hi,
I have 3 adult dd's~~my new dh doesn't like any of them nor do they like him (big problem at times for me) when dh & I had our wills written up, he insisted that nothing of his families goes to any of my girls~~it can go into a "trust" for the grandkids who treat him as if he were their bio grandfather (my granddaughter calls my xh poppa and my dh grandpa) I am not leaving anything to any of my dd's because of their behavior toward myself or my new dh and it's laded out in our wills why too as. I get to decided who I want my estate left to, I'm leaving money to the Girl Scout over my daughters because of what they have said/done to my dh.
Sam
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