Defriending Sister-In-Law on FB

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Registered: 01-16-2013
Defriending Sister-In-Law on FB
Fri, 08-30-2013 - 11:18am

I am so sick of my sister-in-law's comments on FB that I could scream. She tags herself in every photo that anyone in the family posts and she writes the most embarrassing comments to people. She has no class or manners and will just say anything. I've tried to gently and then not so gently tell her to keep in mind that I have FB friends from the past, from work and neighbors and I don't appreciate her very personal and too detailed comments. Either she doesn't get it or is doing it deliberately. I can't decide. I want to defriend her but don't want to start a family war because I was "mean" to poor Elsie. She's a 48 year old woman with 5 children (4 that have been in prison and one that has nothing to do with her) and a rotten jerk of a husband and everyone always feels so sorry for her because she has had such a rough life. Well maybe she's had a rough life because she's stupid!

I hate being this angry but I need advice on what to do about her.

Community Leader
Registered: 08-25-2006
Fri, 08-30-2013 - 1:20pm

I have a few people that I have hid, versus unfriending.  You can also change your setting so people can't tag you without your permission.  That would probably be the most effective so these pictures and comments don't show up on your wall.   And anything else you can find in your settings that will keep her comments from showing up on your wall. 

Then as a side note, keep in mind we all have issues.  I will give you the benefit of the doubt here that you are frustrated and need to vent.  Her situation is unfortunate.  Try appreciating your happy life over her unhappy one.  Your frustration is only hurting you.  Good luck!

Serenity CL making a second marriage work

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-19-2008
Fri, 08-30-2013 - 1:50pm

For some reason FB makes people stupid.  This is a public forum and people who have decorum would know that it isn't wise to just "put it all out there".  I don't know much about blocking and untagging and all that stuff and others like the first reply post have great ideas.

This sil is probably a very strong cause for why four of the five children she has have ended up in jail/prison.  She's just in denial - and while others may feel sorry for her, the best thing you can do is avoid and just treat her with the same courtesy you would to someone you saw on the street and really have no relationship with.

It's too late to just pull her off fb without a great reason or you'll hurt feelings and cause problems.  If you can find a way to block her posts and stuff without doing that you will be better off.

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-23-2001
Fri, 08-30-2013 - 9:18pm
2013 is the year I really cleaned house on fb, I did unfriend some of family - specifically inlaws - and don't regret it. While fb is a source of communication for some families it's become a source of nonsense in my experiences with them.



iVillage Member
Registered: 11-28-1999
Mon, 09-02-2013 - 9:43am

Actually I think that when you unfriend someone, they don't even get a notice about it so she might not realize it.  If you hide her, then you don't see what she posts, but it wouldn't solve the problem about her commenting on your posts--I believe she could still do that.  If you unfriend her & she realizes and gets mad at you, then you just have to say that you asked her not to make embarrassing personal comments but she still did.

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-19-2008
Wed, 09-11-2013 - 1:16pm

I can attest to that.  My sil unfriended me back in February - but I didn't get a notice.  The notice was I stopped seeing her millions of post daily about what she had for dinner, what her new hairstyle was looking like, that she was in love with her hubby, that she ran a mile that day......blah, blah, blah.