GMIL only has days left :(

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Registered: 10-23-2007
GMIL only has days left :(
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Mon, 03-19-2012 - 4:16pm

Hospice says she only has about 4 days left and then this weekend GMIL wanted everyone around to say her goodbyes and ask for forgiveness so they didn't think she would make it past Saturday but here we are.

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Tue, 03-20-2012 - 11:06am

I'm glad you did post because I think it is important for us to give you some support as you go forward this week!

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Registered: 10-23-2007
Tue, 03-20-2012 - 11:48am
I know she's not worth it Summer!! I know that! But my body does not listen, no matter what I do; pills (probiotics, ginger, etc.), teas for relaxing or to help nausea and tummy troubles. I "prepared" for 2 weeks for our last visit (which is really ridiculous if you think about it- the extremes we go to to prepare ourselves for 1 dang visit) and that didn't help at all. By the time we reached their house, my stomach was empty. Sorry on the TMI there but I think I've shared it before.

GMIL hasn't wanted to see anyone so DH hasn't been able to see or talk to her in awhile; she asked to see him this morning and we're currently trying to figure things out. She didn't ask to see me, she asked to see him but he says that she would love to see me and surely she didn't purposefully leave me out, it just got lost in translation. Of course I would love to go see her but at the same time, I don't want to step on anyone's toes as I am not family to some as I am an 'outsider'. I'm okay with not going for this visit if that's what's best but I really should attend the funeral. They were extremely close and DH is going to have a rough time afterwards. I haven't been able to discuss this visit much with DH and he says WE need to discuss and figure it out for US.
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Registered: 10-23-2007
Tue, 03-20-2012 - 5:51pm
We leave in a few hours to go visit and I have calmed down about all of this. I'll be on a liquid diet for the most part, lol. It's not funny but it is.

SO, now I just hope MIL will behave herself while we are down. I can't control her, just myself so I can only hope the visit goes as smoothly as it can. I'll probably do 10 million things wrong according to MIL but she'll have no one to listen to her.
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Wed, 03-21-2012 - 4:54am

I'm sending you big hugs. My dh & I were married in Sept of '01, in December his paternial grandmother passed away suddenly. At the time I wasn't working, but had my 15 yr dd living with us. So dh & BIL were the only 2 that went back to Iowa for her funeral. I did want to go {for support of dh mainly, he doesn't show emotions very well that just the way his FOO is, me I can't watch Hallmark card commerical without brawling}

I all can say is be there for your dh, ignore MIL {I know what a pest they can be, I've had 2 of them & now I'm a MIL to 3 son-in-laws}

~~Sam stitches well with others, runs with scissors in her pocket. Cheerful and stupid.
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Thu, 03-22-2012 - 1:34pm

You are NOT an outsider...you married into this family and no matter how poorly your MIL treats you, you ARE a member of the family.

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Registered: 10-23-2007
Fri, 03-23-2012 - 10:25am

We are back from our visit and it went really well, probably the "best" visit we've had since before we got engaged.

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Fri, 03-23-2012 - 1:52pm

I'm glad your visit went well and that GMIL was able to say her goodbyes to you and your DH.