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| Tue, 11-21-2006 - 3:53pm |
I have been married for 11 years, which have been hell. For 10 years i put up with my inlaws for the sake of my husband, which now I look back and don't see any good reason why I did. I put up with lies, insults, everything you can think of. But of course I'm not saying I would just sit there, it was a constant battle and I simply feel I have better things to do than sit there and argue with someone who doesn't care about making it better. Finally about a year ago I started distancing myself from them, feeling that that was the only way to keep me from losing my sanity. Now though it just seems like divorce is right around the corner if I don't start coming around, and doing what they want and how they want it.. Every month we get at least 5 invitations over to his sisters or mom's or whoever, she calls 2 or 3 times a day to remind my husband of the gathering even though she knows i'm not going, and since we don't show up she comes over the next day and , does anything and everything so we don't do anything else other than sit there with them. Even if that means not taking my kids to church!!! She calls and tells my husband how mad his sister is because we didn't go over or how he needs to make me go. I never have told my husband not to go over when they invite or not to call them. I tell him that's his family and unfortunately it has come to me not wanting to be around them but, that shouldn't keep him from them. But I guess he's not listening . I can't stand it any more me and my husband are fighting alot to the point where he raised his hand at me. I know they are trying their hardest to break me, but I don't see why I have to do what they say when they say or why know I have to like them just because all of a sudden they are so thoughtful of me. Please help me, I don't know which way to go.

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Basically this is how I feel. DH told me when I had problems with his mother not to worry bc "when I'm married, she'll understand that she can't be the #1 woman in my life." I told him no woman of any character would marry a man UNLESS she was already #1 in his life. And he better make every effort to ensure thats clear by his actions.
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