help please

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Registered: 03-10-2005
help please
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Wed, 01-03-2007 - 11:43am

hey everyone, i would really appreciate any input on this situation!

i am thinking of breaking up with my boyfriend because i find myself becoming more and more jealous of his three sisters and 2 year old niece. we just found out that one of his other sisters is now pregnant as well and is due in september.. she is only 19.. at a time when i should be happy.. i am finding myself dreading the fact that my boyfriend is going to get another niece.. if it's a nephew that will be fine. whenever he brings up his sisters or niece, i find myself becoming angry and immeadiately thinking that he sexually is interested in them. i HATE feeling like this but it won't stop.. i know i need to go to counselling to talk this out but what can i do right now to end these horrible feelings.. this is the main problem for me.. other then that everything is great.. but it's getting to the point where i feel like i cannot deal with it anymore.. i would hate to end a 3 year relationship based on something like this..

please help :(

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Registered: 09-22-2003
In reply to: alovescene
Sat, 01-06-2007 - 12:28am
This is just my .02, but I had similar feelings once in a relationship years ago. My question to you would be - what was your relationship like with your father? I was jealous of my (then) boyfriend's close relationship with his sister and niece (the only male figure in their lives) because I didn't feel that kind of love from my dad (the only male figure in my life). Over the years after that relationship, my Dad and I grew much closer and I also learned a lot about myself and I started to realize where those feelings were coming from. So I'm curious about your relationships with male figures in your own life - father, brothers, etc.
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Registered: 10-13-2006
In reply to: alovescene
Sun, 01-07-2007 - 3:18pm
good point solanasmama

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