Holiday Inlaw Advice

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Registered: 07-23-2012
Holiday Inlaw Advice
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Thu, 12-27-2012 - 6:58pm

So how was your holiday season?

Did you have any issues with the in laws? If so, how did you resolve it? Any holiday tips for making it through family gatherings with us?

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Registered: 10-23-2001
Fri, 12-28-2012 - 6:18am

It was a quiet holiday for us and I really cut back on spending too, Sending inlaws (and my dad, too) cards with our kids' pictures in it.....  Just yesterday DH talked to his mom and she goes, Did you send us anything? Why this got me boiling mad is beyond me b/c these ignorant, stupid things she says is nothing new but isn't it ironic that in years before when we HAVE sent them something she NEVER acknowledges it, Lol..  We don't expect a thing but I'm tired of the narcisism and the tone she always shoots our way. 

 

 

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Wed, 01-02-2013 - 1:02pm

My Holidays were very nice this year.  We cut out the inlaws completely since June so I had less to buy for.  My family (sons and DH) went on a week cruise in the Caribbean.  Very, very nice.  I didn't know what to expect from the mil - I know she's always conniving in some manner.  As it turned out, my bd which is beginning of Dec. she didn't acknowledge (what I wanted) but then right before our cruise (she knew we were going - through grapevine) she sent this bd card - almost 3 weeks late mind you - with some verbiage about what it means to be a "daughter".  There was no apologies or wording from them in their own words at all - just their signature.  It truly made me feel that their goal was to get it there in time to upset me before the cruise.

Why do I say that?

1. she's always been very timely with cards (never 3 weeks late) and of all the years to do it then - the year I've cut her off.

2.  A nice person would have included some personal note - not just their names.

3. The verbiage about the "daughter" my honest gut feeling is that she's highlighting all the things she thinks I'm not.  

But, I sent it back to her (return to sender) and if the heaven's are shining down upon me it got to her on Xmas eve.  

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Thu, 01-03-2013 - 3:25pm

I think many families cut back this year. I know we got our children, still at home, one big thing and a couple small things. For our older children we got them gift certificates to their favorite places or "open" gift cards to spend as they like.

Grandkids got one toy they asked for, after discussion with their parents, so as not to duplicate the gift :D

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Wed, 01-09-2013 - 8:33am

We're lucky our kids don't expect a lot and three gifts under the tree each is what we typically stop at anyway (that + a few small stocking stuffers thingys too).. Where we cut back is the extended family stuff, I used to send my dad something but he only got a card, I used to remember our parish priest but I didn't recognize him this year either, Inlaws, like my dad just got a card but they are always about what's in it for me (meaning them) which is how they are, Maybe this year was a sign of years to come, They don't need a thing nor do we owe them a thing.