HOW MUCH MORE DO WE HAVE TO TAKE !!
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| Wed, 04-25-2007 - 12:56pm |
My inlaws have completely fell off there rockers !!! I can no longer put up with these selfish , manipulative ,lying people. We are not only fighting my Husbands parents , but his sister to. I have not spoken to my inlaws in over year . The reason for that is I had some serious family problems that I had to cope with and help out with about a year ago . What had happen was kept private for the person who was going through it and we were not willing to talk about it with anyone . Well My inlaws have always been the engulfing type , there is absolutely no privacy when it comes to them . They are very nosy !! To make a long story short a big arguement was started about my mother in law questioning me about the situation that was going on and one thing led to another and we havent spoke in year.
The relationship with these people has always been rocky from day one . My husband can not get along with them either . Its there way or no way !! When we ask for them to leave us alone and give us some space they threatend us with grandparent rights , well that really threw us over the edge . Who do they think they are ? and why do they think they are intitled to our child . well my husband and I came to an agreement that they could see our child maybe once a month that included maybe spending the night or hanging out for the day . That went on for a while , until my mother in law decided to throw our child a secret birthday party at her home . My husband and I decided to only have a small party with just the three of us when it came time for our childs birthday . My husbands sister called a week or so before our childs birthday and wanted to get him for the night on saturday and stay until sunday . She told my husband that she may take him out to dinner for our childs birthday and he said that would be fine . After he got off the phone i said " they better not have a birthday party for our child " and he said they wouldnt do that . I said oh yes they would !! The reason for me to be so suspicous is because my mother inlaw called the next night and was like im having one of my family dinners again this sunday and would like our grandchild to be there .My Husband said ok , that sister was getting our son on saturday and that he would not pick our son up until 5pm sunday . well needless to say my husband goes to pick up our son and he walks into a full blown birthday party . He kept his composure and left with our son . When he returned home and i was told what had happened and i was irate . Who do they think they are ? My husband called them and told them how he felt and do you know what his mother said come on now that was not a birthday party . Do i have to tell you everytime we are going to do something for our grandson .well the argument was point less and it ended up with her saying Do you know i could have had your wife arrested for calling me a bitch a year ago and so on and so on ... They never see there behavior as insulting , disrespectful or untolerable .
The main reason for my post is that my father inlaw showed up at my husbands work yesterday demanding to know when they are going to see there grandchild and my husbands reply was when i feel like bringing him down there . My father inlaw started in on you dont even go and see your grandparents and so on and so on . Needless to say my father inlaw was pissed and also turned around and called my husband on his cell phone and left a message saying we need to settle this situation , you need to either call me or if your man enough bring your self down here so we can discuss this . These people are nuts . My husband is 30 years old and has his father showing up at work running his big mouth infront of other employees . I asked my husband how that made him feel and he said that he is embarassed that they dont care who they do this crap in front of . Its insane and i dont know what to do . I do not think our son should be around people like this , but if we keep him away than we will end up in court with them fighting us for vistitation and in most cases where we live there will be some sort of visitation granted . I have really had enough and so has my husband . Please give me some advice as to how to handle this .

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Still having troubles with them huh?
Big hugs to you. They sound like an absolute nightmare.
I remember your previous post
http://messageboards.ivillage.com/n/mb/message.asp?webtag=iv-rldealingwit&msg=7380.1&ctx=128
It sounds to me like you hubby is on the same side as you with this, so you're not on your own.
If I were you I'd ask him to say a very firm ENOUGH. If you want to take us to court then go ahead.
It's all just hot air.
Bridget xx
No you won't. There are no Grandparent rights anymore. They would have to prove that it wouldn't be in your son's best interest to keep him from them and they can't. If anything you can prove its in his best interest to never see them again since they undermine you and threaten you.
http://supct.law.cornell.edu/supct/html/99-138.ZS.html
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Cat
Mom to 5: DS-17, DD-16, DD-11, DD-9, DS-7
Lvnlife,
Your in-laws are trying to control you plain and simple. They have no legal standing to demand "visitation rights" with your son.
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