Inappropriate invitation ?

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Inappropriate invitation ?
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Wed, 08-15-2012 - 12:38pm

My sister-in-law is throwing my brother an over the hill birthday party.    The invitation she sent out has a picture of him in his 20's and one from more recent years.   The old picture is of him in his underwear.   This invitation has been sent not only to family members, but his friends and co-workers as well.   Now, I ask you, is it appropriate to send pictures of your spouse in his underwear to co-workers ??      OMG

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Registered: 11-21-2003
Fri, 08-17-2012 - 12:17pm

It's tacky but maybe he's aware of it. Maybe that's his sense of humor and she knows he would be ok with it. Sending it to co-workers is the part that's particularly cringe worthy. I wouldn't care about the family part, but then again, I don't know him. If he takes it all in stride then I would just chalk it up to being their sense of humor, and if he's ok with it then you needn't be upset. 

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Registered: 05-19-2008
Fri, 08-17-2012 - 12:44pm

IMO Tacky and inappropriate.

 

If he doesn't know about it and finds out about it...I sure hope he is okay with it.  But, gotta wonder, when did he pose for the picture - maybe that's just his personality?

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Registered: 02-14-2004
Sat, 08-18-2012 - 12:54am

It's their relationship...I would stay out of it if I were you. 

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Registered: 04-19-2004
Mon, 08-20-2012 - 10:48am

I usually tape all our invitations and announcements to our oversized master calendar in our kitchen.  Theirs would not be posted so I would probably forget the event.

I hope he knows. I would NEVER do that to my dh even if he looked awesome - no way no how.  I would not say a word.

I would however leave if he shows up to the party in his skanties.  AWKWARD!

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Registered: 02-14-2004
Mon, 08-20-2012 - 1:14pm

Why such a big deal about an invitation where he's got the important parts covered by underware?  It's not like he's got it ALL hanging out!  You'd actually hide an invitation because it has a picture of a man in underware on it?  Good thing Sears doesn't have a catalog any more, could cause apoplexy over the underwear and bathing suit section! 

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Registered: 05-19-2008
Mon, 08-20-2012 - 3:02pm

I think it would be bothersome to some people.  Obviously it isn't anyone's business but the wife and the husband's - but, I think sending it to his work is in poor taste!

 

It's like the mom who pulls out the baby pictures of her son in the bathtub in his birthday suit.  It is cute - but you definitely don't post it on facebook!

 

I don't know....some people just have different feelings.  I'd be embarrassed!

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Registered: 02-14-2004
Thu, 08-23-2012 - 1:33pm

>>....some people just have different feelings. I'd be embarrassed!<<

You're right... people do have different feelings about it...look at your reaction and mine.  I just thought it was kind of funny how differently you and I saw it. 

But then, there was a section of my high school annual where parents posted embarrassing pics of their children "just for fun" and there were several bare-butt baby shots and half-dressed pics of that year's graduating seniors. 

I find it funny that back in "the stuffy olden days" (1968) when I graduated from high school people thought embarrassing their graduating high school seniors publishing such photos in their high school annual was the thing to do.  (And by stuffy olden days, I mean, when I was a high school senior, one of my married teachers became pregnant and had to leave her job until after the baby was born...I guess because we teenagers might be somehow influenced to go have sex since we had obvious proof that our teacher had "done the deed" or some such silly notion.)  Yet, today when things are much more liberal and open, a baby butt photograph is considered pornography and could get a person arrested! 

I just find it interesting how different people and different times cause such differing reactions to things like that.