It has been a very sad week.
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|Sat, 10-01-2011 - 1:11am|
My old neighbor who I was very friendly with died this week after a long battle with Cancer. She has 4 grown kids. The oldest is a mess that is general knowledge. Anyway.
Three years ago my friend turned Catholic. She was baptized, and made her first communion and several times had the last rites performed on her. As her friend who also has cancer we talked about when we would die and what we wanted. We both agreed we wanted cremated and laughed at the places where we wanted our ashes spread. See two people with Cancer can talk like that to each other.
We also talked about how our kids never really kept in contact. The oldest child she hadn't seen in years. They never got along since she was a teenager. The one son was out of town and I really don't know about the other two. But none of the kids were raised Catholic That was something that for years my friends wanted to be.
To make a long story short. It is our right as a Catholic to be taken to Church. And have the Mass for the Dead said for us. When some of the distance relatives and myself found out instead of the kids taking their mother's ashes to Church They were going to have a "party" next Sunday at a local bar. We were beside ourselves.
Personally I tried to talk to the oldest Girl Her answer was it is not what I believe. So what. Mother liked a party so we are going to have a party. We all like parties but as a Catholic when we die we go to church.
Since my son doesn't do anything for us and has to hide the fact he calls us from time to time now because of his wife. She hates us for really no good reason. This whole thing with my friends daughter upset me. Because in my heart I know that if my daughter in law has anything to do with it I will never see or my ashes will never see the inside of a Catholic church. They will most likely end up in the toilet somewhere.
My husband will see to my wishes. But what if he can't do it. I have been going nuts all week I love my son with my whole heart but I do not trust him since he met his wife. She has taken away his back bone. Finally last night I called a friend that is also Catholic and made him promise me even if he had to steal my ashes and take them to Texas I am in Kentucky I wanted to go to Church and have the Mass of the dead said for me. . He promised me he would.
I know that there are a lot on this board that have different religious backgrounds..