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|Mon, 08-27-2012 - 12:21pm|
So, I wanted to keep everyone in the loop of the fall out after the letter cutting the inlaws out of my life and DS's life.
No - of course they would not try to contact me at all but they've tried to contact DH and he's not responded. Except that 2 weeks ago he got a call from sil saying that fil was having serious tests done and spent the day in the hospital and guilted him like he should have responded (only he didn't know so he couldn't have). He finally spoke with her about it a week later and he said outside (driving home from work) on the call and then about 30 minutes came in side - still talking to her. I knew he was on the phone to her I could hear her doing most of the talking. She was defending the parents etc. saying that it was all on us. We should be the ones to ask them to come over, we should be the ones to ask them to see the kids, we should be the ones that did this and that etc. He stood his ground but he isn't as "to the point" as I was so I asked him to let me speak to her. I laid it out for her plain and simple so she could understand that it wasn't our responsibility. I won't go into all the stuff but suffice it to say that when we were done - I felt like she was on our side more and she said that she was going to confront her parents on some of these things because they were't right. Well, she also wanted to know if they apologized to us would that change anything. I said that maybe but depending on the apology and their acceptance of guilt and that it had to be in written form. I explained that I didn't want to hash this out anymore but that if they finally accepted responsibility for these things and vowed to change that I'd keep an open mind.
Well, the call ended well but I told my DH that when she confronted them they would chew her up and spit her out. Meaning I knew that mil would never admit to anything. So, the following day, sil sent an email - it was a generic foward on safety tactics. I replied and thanked her for the talk and said some really nice things to her. I also invited them over to our son's bday on Wednesday etc. and that was now 5 days ago and no reply.
Well - you can't say that I haven't tried....