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|Thu, 04-03-2003 - 11:14am|
So WHY am I having the trouble that I have with MY in-laws? Half the time I want to squash one of my BIL's, and the other half of the time I want to never have any contact with MIL again. I don't like being around my IL's AT ALL. If I never heard from any of them again, I would be a much happier person. I'm 27 yrs old for cryin out loud. I feel like such a juvenile having these feelings towards them. I find myself deliberately leaving my IL's in the dark about anything that goes on in our lives. I have no trouble telling my own mother about things, but I can't find it in me to open up to my MIL. My BIL hurts my DH's feelings every opportunity he has, making me want to squash him like the insect that he is (isn't that childish??). He has trained my 9-yr-old BIL to talk down to my DH (!), and I can only imagine what he will do with his own children. I am purposefully standoffish around him. I don't speak to him for fear of what will come out of my mouth. My mother can't understand how I can harbor such feelings or act that way. And I know that if we brought a child into this situation, I would not be able to hide my feelings about my IL's and pretend that everything's A-OK. I know our kid would pick up on the bad feelings that I have for my IL's, a good reason not to start a family right now. I guess I always thought that as an adult, there would be no trouble getting along with other members of the family (like the examples I had). From all the problems I've seen posted on this board, it sounds like my family were the oddballs. There MUST have been some bad blood somewhere in my family; I guess they just did a pretty good job hiding it from the kids. I was just wondering if anyone else had similar feelings or experiences.