Kind of wanting to say something, but still wondering what the point would be...
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|Fri, 08-24-2012 - 7:25pm|
So, those of you who read my story below know the drama with my MIL and I. She came last weekend and I bit my tongue and let DD go to her house (mostly to play with her cousins who were in town), and we showed up for the golden grandson's first birthday party on Sunday (I was late because of a family emergency on my side, but still showed, and DH and DD went the entire time). Well, SIL had to go back to where she lives on Monday, but MIL stayed the entire week. On Sunday night at the party she told DD that she would call during the week and that DD could come over and that she really wanted to come watch DD's swim lessons. I work full time, and DH had to go out of town on business, so I told MIL a couple of times that DD would be at my mom's house and she could call over there any time and my mom would be happy to arrange for her to have DD for a while (god forbid MIL ever offer to have her for a full day) and I gave her the times for DD's swim lessons. Mind you, we live in a small community and MIL, my parents and my house are all within a half mile of each other. (I should say FIL's house now, as MIL has been there a total of 10 days in the last 12 months.) Anyhow the week has come and gone (MIL flew back to SIL's house this afternoon) and we haven't heard a word from MIL.
I know I shouldn't be surprised by this, after years of essentially the same stuff, but this time for me, the fact is, she lied to my DD's face. I don't believe that MIL had any intentions of ever bothering to spend any time with DD while she was in town, and even at 4, my DD is old enough to remember when her grandmother says she's going to be somewhere and then doesn't show up. DH is irritated, but would rather just ignore his mother and hope she doesn't come back to visit any time soon. I talked to my other SIL today, and MIL didn't bother with her kids on this visit either, but SIL is also the type who would rather just ignore the situation.
I'm at the point though where I kind of want to say something to MIL. I know it wouldn't do any good, but I hate the thought that she runs around thinking (and telling people) that she's some awesome grandmother, when really she's a horrible person who sees no problem with lying to and thusly dissapointing a bunch of little kids! I don't know what I would say, probably something along the lines of "You crossed the line this time when you made promises to my DD and then never followed through, and therefor the next time you are in town, I will not put my family in the place where the same situation will happen again." In other words, let her know that unless DD/DH get an apology and an explanation she will not be seeing DD on her next visit.
What are your thoughts? Is it pointless? Would you say something but say it differently? Like I said, I don't think it would do any good with her, but I think it might make me feel better to say my piece.