In-Law Funeral Etiquette
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|Sun, 08-26-2007 - 4:32pm|
My father in law passed away last week. My mother made it clear when he took ill that she would only attend ONE thing- the wake or the funeral. Yeh, yeh, yeh I said. They live about 2 hours from us.
When my dear FIL did die and I called my parents, they again said they woud come to only one thing and sent a small basket of flowers to the our home.
My parents chose to attend the wake- they did so for one hour- throughout which my mother caught my eye and tapped her wrist that they had to leave. She claims she couldn't get anyone to cover her overnight shift. They promised to bring a dessert and didn't- my dad claimed he didn't "hear" me on the phone say that I needed it.
This is the first in-law wake and funeral. MIL is long deceased. What is proper etiquette for in-laws?
I thought my parent should have stayed for the wake and funeral and offered to help me with the after wake family dinner at home. We offered them a hotel room- although $ isn't an issue for them. I thought my dad could have driven back to the funeral alone if my mom wasn't able to attend.
My mom hung up on me last night when I said I was disappointed with them. She said she "did everything perfect."