In-laws Mummsie & Daddy
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| Tue, 04-17-2007 - 10:51am |
I am to visit my in-laws, who I have had little no contact with since my last visit. At that last visit 3 yrs. ago their daughther was having an agrument with her parents that had my name dragged into and resulted in my character being questioned. Everyone denies everything and my husband has taken the we-just-don't know approach. Now I am to return to seeing them and a feud will start if I don't call them Mummsie and Daddy. My husband claims neutrality, but makes a case for me to resume calling them Mummsie and Daddy. We will stay in a hotel seperated from the family or I can stay at their home calling them what they wish. If I call them by their first names I will probably suffer a passive-aggressive retailation and be ostracized. This trip will be expensive and out of the country.
Any advice?

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My newest MIL asked me to call her "Mom", I told her I had mom & she has passed away (and MIL could never fill my mom's shoes either). So I still call her by her nickname, then she asked me to call her "Mother B", I told her when the other DIL started calling her that then I would call her that. That was 6 years ago, I'm still calling her by her nickname.
~Sam
How about you just call them Mr. and Mrs. Barking Mad.
Bridget :)
I can understand Mum/Mam/Mom & Dad. But Mummsie & Daddy? What are they tripping on?
I'm with you on this one.
“It’s sometimes hard to listen without judgement but people do appreciate being heard.†aka Sam Spade, 23rd August 2007
You might ask your husband if you and he are sister and brother, sharing the same "Mummsie and Daddy" or adult spouses with your own sets of parents?
I suggest the hotel, and if the passive-aggressive BS starts, go enjoy the amenities the hotel offers. Spa, gym, pool, movie theatre, etc. Take in some of the touristy opportunities of the place you are visiting.
Make sure that you are on the rental car agreement as a driver, or know how to use the public transport in the area. Heck, call a taxi if need be and leave with a *CHEERY* "See you when you're feeling better!"
Let him know that he can enjoy his trip with his wife or with the passive-aggressive "Mummsie and Daddy".
Or, let him go alone to kiss up to his Mummsie and Daddy while you stay an adult at home!
Good luck to you, whatever you decide.
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