Living with widow MIL
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|Tue, 09-17-2013 - 4:40am|
how do you deal with a widow MIL who is controlling, manipulating, emotionally abusive and hot temper ?
We all live in the same house (MLI, husband, his 2 sisters and I) and seeing her everyday makes me not want to talk to her or see her. So most of the time I stay in the basement watching movies. When I dont talk to her she gets mad and feels that im ignoring her. We dont have anything in common to talk about. To be truthful, I dont like her. Her personality is so different from mine. Her presence bring out this negative vibe. She doesnt even have good relationship with her children, though they listen to what ever she tells them to do but really shes just an controlling and manipulating mother and when it doesnt go her way she gets emotionally abusive and hot temper...
My husband and I been saving money to move out and buy a house somewhere near so at least he can also be close to his family but i feel like my MIL and my sister in law is not happy with the decision of us moving out. They think us moving out will ruin their relationship with the family. They dont understand my husband and I want to start our own family and have our own house. They don't understand living with them could ruin our marriage.
I left my whole family and friends in west coast and moved here with my husband's family in midwest. So my husband is everything to me right now.
My MIL being a widow has not only effected my husband and I but my sister in law who is engaged now wants to break of the engagement because she doesnt want to leave her mom by herself or later having to choose between her husband or mom if problem strikes.
So we are all in hot mess right now... I feel sad for my husband cause something his in the middle of a mom and a wife. I want them to have a good relationship but my husband is not very expressive and therefore my MIL thinks im taking her son away from her or putting bad things in his head.
So someone give me advice cause at this point I dont know what to do and I love my husband very much.