This makes me angry!(sorry..long)
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|Fri, 03-28-2003 - 12:26pm|
I havent been around for a while.Things have been ok
because MIL is safe and sound far far away in India (arent I evil :)
Anyway this AM I get a call from my BIL (Dh's bro) that
he finds the money he has to send to his mom (we all split the cost and send her
equal amounts monthly) too much for him because he's currently unemployed.He wants to
split the cost of her Plane ticket to bring her back here!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Hello...$2500 plane ticket?? I Dont have THAT kind of money right now.
Both my BIL and SIL are not working..they have supposedly a million dollars
saved away..they live at her parents place (They rent from her parents..which is
really a 'no rent' situation) and they have two kids. BIL is expected to send $300 to
mom (in canadian funds) which is a lot less in US funds for them!!!
DH and I send $300 Canadian..and we earn in Canadian dollars!
We are newly married..starting out and the money we send is really difficult..but we
manage (we have debts too)
anyway, I get angry because BIl wont take up a part time or 'survival job'.. why would he need to!! but he cannot afford to send money to his mom.
I am being judgemental but they seem lazy to me.
DH and I can continue to send our three hundred..and I know after converting..the money should suffice MIL fine. The money she gets now gives her a really cushy lifestyle.
I am NOT READY for my Mil to come back.. and I am also surprised that my DH did not tell me that he had this talk with his Brother. I also know that even if my BIL/SIL say that MIL can stay with them.. they will start pressuring us to quickly do her sponsership into canada (DH has been putting this off for a few months till we get ourselves going a bit)
I am mad at DH for not standing upto brother..because I know my BIL allows his wife to dictate the terms (She decided my MIL was not going to live with them..and that was fine with her husband..she decides they cannot afford this 300 dollars.thats fine with him) but my husband will argue with me..but not talk back to his brother.
I plan to talk to my dh tonight aboutthis..by telling him we can continue sending the money and mom will be fine. Even if MIL comes back to live with us, I think its only fair that BIL and SIL help out by paying for some of her expenses (which we find it really hard to afford right now)..DH is working ft and in school and im working ft too.
so they would end up paying $200 US to help mom out anyway!! whether she is in india or Canada !!!!!!!!!!!!
Please comment. I am sorry for the venting/ranting i am doing.