Making a mountain out of a molehill--vent

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Making a mountain out of a molehill--vent
Thu, 07-24-2014 - 1:30pm

My ex's DB and SIL live within walking distance of a beach in the next town.  They have always let my kids park at their house to save the parking fee when they want to use the beach--normally they aren't home during the day anyway.  So my almost 19 yr old son has been doing it a few times this summer--it's not every day, more like once a week at most.  So the last time, apparently he or one of his friends left a soda can and coffee cup in their driveway.  I do agree that in her place, I would have said something, like "you left some trash here that I had to pick up, so could you be more careful and make sure not to do it again."  But instead she went on about how his friends were disrespectful and what kind of company does he keep and although he can still park there, none of his friends can.  I thought it was really over the top.  It's not like it was on purpose and it's not like it was beer cans or something like that.  of course my son just apologized, but he is really annoyed.  My ex thinks his SIL is a really phony anyway--she acts super nice to everyone but she has really never had much of a relationship with my kids--they are fine if they see the kids at Christmas and major events, never send them a birthday card (even though the uncle is my son's godfather), etc.  I would put this lack of interest down to them not having any kids themsevles, but the aunt was always babysitting and doing things with her bio nieces and nephews.  Well it's only another month until he goes away to college so I guess he can either suck it up or go park in the lot and pay.  And then they can go back to never seeing our kids but pretending they are interested in them.

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Registered: 09-16-2002
Thu, 07-24-2014 - 1:55pm

Just to play devil's advocate, have you children ever done anything nice for their Aunt/Uncle for letting them park for free?  Perhaps your ex SIL was annoyed because she's been letting them park but never got so much as a thank you, and now garbage is being left (even if by accident)?  I don't think this has anything to do with not having children of their own.

Insanity: doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.

.  -Albert Einstein

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Registered: 08-19-2014
Thu, 08-21-2014 - 3:42am

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