My BIL is going crazy

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Registered: 01-25-2013
My BIL is going crazy
Fri, 04-05-2013 - 8:14am

Help. My BIL is going crazy. Something is happening to him. He's losing his mind and I keep trying to get my SIL to see that her husband is not right and getting worse. He is 50 years old and when anyone is around him he talks non stop. He rambles on and on and you can't get a word in edgewise. He follows you around and will even stand outside the bathroom door to continue his conversation. His version of religion and politics is getting weirder and weirder and he believes he may be THE answer to problems if only people would listen to his advice. He has started playing the guitar and will sit up till 2 AM and play as loud as the amplifier can go. He thinks that his "talent" is so rare that everyone really enjoys hearing his incredible music. It is usually unbearable nonsense and I can't believe that none of the neighbors have called the police yet. He keeps bringing cats home that he has found. I've never known anyone to "find" so many cats. I'm concerned he is taking people's pets. There are so many other things that he is doing that I can't list them all.

Mental illness runs in his family and I think he is definitely showing signs of something. His wife just ignores him and seems to just shrug off his latest behavior as just "you know how he is..." Is there any way to help them?

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Registered: 09-16-2002
Fri, 04-05-2013 - 1:40pm

Does your BIL have a job?  Have others noticed this change in his behaviour?  One thing you could do is encourage your SIL to at least bring your BIL in for a physical.  If he's acting that odd, then his doctor will certainly see that there has been a change in his mental status.  There could be any number of things wrong.  Does your SIL seem unconcerned or in denial.  He may have even been diagnosed bipolar and she knows it and accepts it? 

Insanity: doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.

.  -Albert Einstein

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Thu, 04-11-2013 - 10:45am

Maybe your SIL does realize it but she just doesn't want to discuss it w/ the family.  My ex had bipolar disorder but he refused to allow me to tell anyone in the family, even our kids (mine were from my 1st marriage, we didn't have kids together).  that was really a mistake and eventually he told them, but by then damage had been done to the relationship.  but I'm sure even today he has not told his sibs, even though his sisters are nurses who would certainly understand.  He was usually able to keep things together in public so I doubt anyone would have suspected.  Maybe your BIL is actually trying to get help but things take time.  Unfortunately unless he is suicidal or a danger to others, even your SIL can't force him to get help if he doesn't want to.