My IL's "Dogaphobia"

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Registered: 04-28-2007
My IL's "Dogaphobia"
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Mon, 02-27-2012 - 2:13pm

Hello all,

I'm actually kind of embarassed to be typing this because it seems so weird, but I would like some thoughts and advice on how to handle this situation because it's just so darn annoying.

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Registered: 04-19-2004
Mon, 02-27-2012 - 3:50pm

Here is how I would handle the situation based upon your stating your dog is friendly and non threatening and quiet.

If I had a family gathering, I would invite everyone and let this family know my plan. I would graciously crate my pet or put them in another area of the house or yard for a set amount of time.

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Registered: 04-28-2007
Mon, 02-27-2012 - 4:51pm

Thank you for your advice.

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Registered: 03-23-2011
Mon, 02-27-2012 - 5:05pm

It's a tough situation.

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Registered: 07-24-2001
Mon, 02-27-2012 - 5:38pm

I TOTALLY understand your situation.

I do think part of your problem is that you are being inconsistent.

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Registered: 05-12-2011
Mon, 02-27-2012 - 8:45pm

Quick question.. Is the child other wise "normal " in all other aspects? Or does she have any other issues. Like possible Asperger's or other similar issues that may not have been found or diagnosises? Because if there are any other behavioral issues, there could be other problems not just the dog.

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Registered: 04-28-2007
Mon, 02-27-2012 - 8:47pm

Thanks, Bumbling, for helping me to understand this fear and phobia thing.

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Registered: 04-28-2007
Mon, 02-27-2012 - 8:59pm

To my knowledge, there is no Aspergers or disorder present.

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Registered: 10-11-2005
Tue, 02-28-2012 - 1:52am

I understand what your going thru. We have cats, our house is a giant cat house {and not in that way LOL, y'all get your minds out of the gutter now} we have card board scrating pads in 5 rooms, a kitty condo, a couple of up right scratching post. We are only here to serve the cats. {heck they sleep with us}

We have friends who are allegric to the cats, so when they come over we have to put the cats in our bedroom & lock them up. Then I run around vacaming the house like crazy.

~~Sam stitches well with others, runs with scissors in her pocket. Cheerful and stupid.
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Registered: 06-05-2010
Tue, 02-28-2012 - 9:25am

Just from what you've posted, it sounds like SIL has a problem with dogs so Niece's fear of dogs is a good barrier for her and her problem with dogs. I feel for your niece going through that kind of terror. She does need help with it or she is going to have so many challenges.

I think the suggestions you have received here are good ones. I don't even think I would be inclined to crate my dog at all and just keep him in the backyard and have them keep their daughter inside but I also got my hackles up with feeling it's rude to make such a production over the hand sanitizer after petting the dog. If she wants hand sanitizer, do it quietly and politely. The production is passive aggressive and I have no patience with passive aggressive behavior so take me with a grain of salt. :)

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Registered: 05-19-2008
Tue, 02-28-2012 - 1:18pm

First, I love dogs - my DH and I have 5 and they own a very large portion of our sofa in the evenings - LOL.

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