My sister in law making my brother miserable - should I talk to her?
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|Mon, 01-30-2012 - 2:28pm|
So my brother and his wife hit a rough patch a few months ago. They have a 4.5 year old together. My brother has been spoiling her ever since they met - he cooks, cleans the house, takes their kid outside (she always has the TV on and doesn't leave the house because she's cold...). Anyway in November 2011 she miscarried at 10 weeks, there were some health issues involved. She's been psycho ever since, and I don't want to seem like I'm defending my brother, I know he messed up, too. She spent the first weeks of pregnancy in bed, he kept catering to her. He said he finally got sick of her wearing her PJs all day long, the house being dirty and he snapped. That was after the miscarriage, I guess he took it too light and she was upset over that. I understand - women become mothers way earlier than men do - to him it was just an embrio. Anyway, she ended up packing his bags so that one night he came home from work at like 11pm and his bag was outside. It was 3 days before Xmas and he slept in his car. He found a hotel and stayed there a few days, she ended up letting him move back in but it wasn't the same. He said she was acting crazy, accusing him of cheating on her,etc. He ended up moving out by himself a few days later. He's been living in that hotel since then, and she's acting so psycho, I can't imagine I used to love this girl.
She called all of my family (including my 92 year old grandma) to say how horrible he was and how he left her and their son. Her mother called my brother to tell him she'd get him fired. My SIL called the phone company and reported his phone stolen, so they gave her a new card for it - she kept the phone and answers it when it rings, to see if girls are calling him. She also printed out last 3 months worth of phonecalls and calls EVERY number and hangs up if she hears a guy.
Anyway, my brother loves her and I can see how much he's suffering. He moved for her 1000 miles away from home, so he has noone there. She has her mother, grandma and aunt (all divorced) support club. She has a friend who is a lawyer and she keeps threatening him with child support and alimony. He's stupid enough to be honest with her about his finances (he might be losing his job soon).
Recently, she started to make it really difficult for him to see his son. And there's noone in this world my brother loves more than that little boy. Since she'd never play with him, he doesn't even listen to her, so I know she's in this weird battle just to make my brother miserable. He told her that if she files for divorce he will sign it, so to think twice before she does it. She hasn't talked about divorce since. It sucks, since I know how much they used to love each other and what a great couple they were (yes, it bothered me that she'd have my brother fetch everything and be at her service, but I thought I was just jealous...). If only they weren't so stubborn.
Her mother's also a bitch - they are next door naighbors, so she'd come over to their house every day, without knocking, go right for the bedroom, lay down on their bed and put the TV on. Can you friggin' imagine?
Should I call/ email her? WTF is she doing - depriving her son of his father? Since her and I have been civil so far, should I stay out of this? I can't see my Mom cry anymore though, every time she thinks about her son being stranded 1000 miles away from home in some nasty hotel. He's not