Name one nice quality about your MIL....

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Name one nice quality about your MIL....
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Tue, 09-12-2006 - 8:30pm

I know many people have problems with their MILs, but even though you may not like her, there is still usually some redeeming quality or qualities about her. Whether it is she was a good mother, she is intelligent or that she is a good grandmother.

I'll start first. I like my MIL and I think that she really cares about her family and she is down to earth and doesn't pretend to be something that she isn't.








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Registered: 06-05-2003
Tue, 09-12-2006 - 9:30pm

Deep down I think my MIL has always been a good hearted person. Over the years I have learned about the unhappy aspects of her childhood which caused her to be tend towards being somewhat controlling.

In recent years I have learned to respect her tenacity. Sure, it got her into trouble sometimes when she was younger, but now it it has helped her to learn how to cope with life alone especially since she's had to learn how to handle things which her husband usually looked after their entire marriage. She is doing fine. She is coping very well. She asks for help when needed, and has made many friends so that she doesn't always need to depend only on her kids or ILkids for help. I admire her courage facing four years nursing a man who's personality changed drastically while suffering from Alzheimers.
It was not easy, and Alzheimers being what it is, he did not feel comfortable with anyone else caring for him. She put everything on hold to look after him until his last day.
She misses him as do we all, but she has become a lot stronger than most people were willing to ever give her credit for including her own sons.

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Wed, 09-13-2006 - 9:13am

This is hard! Well, I guess in her own way, she is trying to make things better between us (even though she has never apologized for her rude actions which is the one thing she could do to honestly start making things better). She is also very generous materially.

Julie

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Wed, 09-13-2006 - 9:56am

She got pregant at a yound age with DH, and decided to have him and raise him. While I am pro choice, I realize the sacrifices she made at 16 years old to have him.


She does think of my DD,

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Wed, 09-13-2006 - 11:44am

My MIL and I do not agree on everything and sometimes it causes friction, but I know she cares deeply about her family and she will do anything to help in any way she can. When I had surgery and we asked if she could come and help with the cooking and the kids, she didn't hesitate and was wonderful to my family and me. She tries not to interfere and does her best to be supportive. All in all, she's a good woman and I can work around any problems.

Now that doesn't mean I won't be griping about something in the near future!! LOL

Madalot

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Registered: 10-04-2005
Wed, 09-13-2006 - 12:52pm

I can't. She lived with us for almost 10 years and she is a selfish, lying, manipulative bitch. She came to our house for DD's 1st birthday and wouldn't speak to me. Not even a hello.

There's nothing good about that woman. Period.

But, I'm glad the rest of you can think of something.

Jenn

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Wed, 09-13-2006 - 4:36pm

Hey Ladies,

Just wanting to know that I guess there is one (notice I said 1) good thing about my FMIL-she is caring, and she will help anyone, but that does not really outweigh the million bad qualities that she has...........controlling, lying, dramatic, manipulative, spoiled, lazy, rude, vulgar, loud, takes advantage of people, gossips, uses people when she needs something, judges people, thinks that she is better than everyone else, says one thing and does another, raised a freaking mama's boy, which is the other main problem in my engagement.............need I continue.......

just venting................thanks guys! katiebelle

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Registered: 10-11-2005
Thu, 09-14-2006 - 12:01am

She is a good woman, and I know that even her funny little way she truely loves both of her ds's & gd's.

Sam

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Registered: 03-19-2003
Thu, 09-14-2006 - 12:12am
Wow, it sounds like your MIL has been through a lot. It also sounds like she is a lot stronger for it, too.







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Thu, 09-14-2006 - 12:14am
I agree that an apology would be helpful, but I think actions speak louder than words. If she is working on trying to make things better, maybe that is her way of apologizing. She could apologize and then do absolutely nothing to make things better, which I think would be worse, IMHO.







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Registered: 03-19-2003
Thu, 09-14-2006 - 12:15am
Sounds like you have a very caring MIL. I'm glad to hear that she is so caring and willing to help. That is great!







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