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|Tue, 10-16-2012 - 4:12pm|
My husband has a family member whom we are very close to. I am like a mother-figure for her. She likes to keep in touch with us by telephone, email, visits, and text. Recently I had a medical situation and she came to stay with us to help me. She is a wonderful person but she is a bit on the high-maintenance side, so instead of being able to relax and heal, I was running around trying to keep her and her children amused.
I might be having some surgery soon. I am still waiting for the test results. If I do need surgery it will be pretty major and I will not be allowed to work for about 2 months. We know that she is going to want to come for a visit to help us. My husband is going to be busy running the business alone and I am going to be in too much pain to entertain her. There is really nothing that she can do to help us. She will want to bring her children with her when she is here.
My husband doesn't want me to mention this to her. He would prefer that she not come as that would be easier on us both. However, if she ever finds out about this, she will be very hurt that we didn't say anything and I'm not sure how I can just disappear for a bit and her not notice.
Does anyone have any ideas how best to handle this delicate situation, if I do need the surgery?