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Sun, 09-18-2011 - 9:45pm
I have 2 kids, I am turning 40 in oct, I am living with my going on 4 yrs. If you lived with your bf would you call his mother mom?
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Registered: 09-19-2011
In reply to: jenhoops40
Mon, 09-19-2011 - 4:59pm
No. I would not call her Mom if/until you marry him.
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In reply to: jenhoops40
Mon, 09-19-2011 - 5:04pm

If you feel comfortable calling her mom and she wants to be called mom then I say go for it. I have been married for 28 years and call my mil by her first name.

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In reply to: jenhoops40
Mon, 09-19-2011 - 5:34pm

Not until you are married and even then, having had this long relationship w/ her I'd probably just keep calling her what I always called her.

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In reply to: jenhoops40
Mon, 09-19-2011 - 9:05pm
I would call her whatever name you're both comfortable with. I've known my MIL for 23 years and I still call her by her first name, my SIL calls her "mom".
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In reply to: jenhoops40
Tue, 09-20-2011 - 1:42am
<< I would call her whatever name you're both comfortable with. >>

I agree, and will add that I don't think whether the OP is married or not makes any difference.

 

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In reply to: jenhoops40
Tue, 09-20-2011 - 12:30pm

I am getting married in March & I will continue to call my MIL, by her name......sometimes I tease them and call my future In-laws "Mom & Dad"....but mostly call them, by their names (it's what I am used to).....when I was married years ago, I was the same with my 1st In-laws (I still talk to ex-in-laws to this day, I adore them! & they are my dd's grandparents)

Kiki (hit my magic age of 45 and no longer TTC),but mom to a beautiful teen DD & 2 angels in heaven & married to my best friend

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In reply to: jenhoops40
Tue, 09-20-2011 - 2:25pm

I would not feel comfortable calling anyone but my mom "Mom." I've called MIL by her first name from day one, and DH and I have been married 20 years. However, there aren't any rules about this. You have to both be comfortable with the name you call her. If one of you isn't cool calling her mom, then the default is to use her first name.

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In reply to: jenhoops40
Sat, 09-24-2011 - 9:47pm
I agree that you should call her whatever both of you are comfortable with. I'm "Nana" to all my grandchildren's friends and all my kids friends and several single guy neighbors all call me "Mom".

I married the boy next door and growing up I called my not-yet MIL "Mrs. XYZ". After I got married, I called her "Mom" for about 20 years, but as she got nastier and nastier, I started referring to her by her first name...mostly because SHE hated it! LOL I, however, was quite comfortable with it! ;)