Relationship with Inlaws and DH
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|Fri, 02-22-2013 - 9:12am|
I've never had a connection with inlaws and I've learned to tolerate a lot over the years, What I'm wonding is if DH's own relationship contributes to my aversion! Nobody in the family is close, It's dysfunctional and communication is more about what they assume about one another than actual , intelligent conversation and truths. We're lucky we live far away and I've been incredibly lucky b/c his problem family has made me appreciate my family more. Respect is huge and that's out there, I insist my kids show them the utmost respect too but I sometimes feel sorry for DH b/c he was starved of family, He's a great guy and I know that's what I fell in love with but I have to admit that a lot of stupid arguments are about his family and their stupid ways, We never argue money like they say is a strain on some families and we don't disagree a lot about raising the kids, values et al. If I could I'd place my husband in a new, deserving family but I know I can't do that, Lol. My husband turned 50 last year and I'm close, As we age ourselves I've sort of given up trying to please others like them and I certainly don't want DH to feel like a puppet around them anymore either! Thoughts? Similar experiences? Thanks for reading!