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|Fri, 10-26-2012 - 1:53pm|
I can't reply or read any threads, but I can post! Trying to keep our boards alive!
To the poster:
Boy, can I relate! I had two children when I married my second (now x) DH. Me and DH had my DD, after being together about 7 years. We met young, so we were still only 29 and 31 at the time. And you guessed it, our DD is still the only grandchild on his side of the family.
I don't know. We have been divorced now for 6 years, but I totally experienced the same thing as you, even after me DH were D. MIL was still buying me Christmas presents and inviting me and DD over! I mean hello...I still have two other children. Yes, there were a lot older, but still. I don't think so.
I also had a large gap in my kids. My older kids were 11 and 14 when my youngest was born. Oh, they knew exactly where they stood with MIL. Before AND after my DD was born. They never felt at home there, never treated like grandkids, etc. etc.
I gotta run, but wanted you to know you are not alone. Pretty much my kids just accepted they were not equal. They didn't really like her and still don't. They are cordial when necessary and that is about it.
I never ever talked to her about it. If my then DH did, I don't recall. Good luck and you may want to check out Making a Second Marriage Work. Similar issues over there, too.
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