SIL's family of 5 to stay with us?!?

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Registered: 09-17-2004
SIL's family of 5 to stay with us?!?
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Tue, 01-09-2007 - 12:16pm

I need some advice... my husband and I recently moved into a new condo. We live in a big city, so we don't have much space. The condo is 3 bdrm, 2 baths... but it's a very small space. One of bdrms is an office, and the other is a guest room which ONLY fits a full bed. We've had people stay over before... his parents came once, and a few friends one wknd.

But recently, he asked me if it would be ok if his sister's family come stay for 2 nights this wknd. His sister's family consists of 3 children under the age of 6 yrs old, plus 2 adults!! That would be 7 people staying total. So I told him I didn't feel comfortable with this... and of course, we got into an argument about it. Later on, after talking with friends, I thought maybe a good idea would be that the family take our condo, and my hubby and I go to a hotel. I mention this idea to him and he didn't like it... he says if he mentions that idea to his sister that she won't want to stay here. Anyway, we are talking about it last night, and he says to me, fine, they'll just stay at my uncle's house (he lives in the area). So now I feel completely guilty and horrible about this. Plus, my hubby told his sister that this is how I was feeling... so I'm definitely looked at as the bad guy.

Is it wrong for me too think that it's going to be way too crowded, and to not allow this?

Any thoughts would appreciated... thanks!

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Registered: 02-02-2007
Thu, 02-08-2007 - 8:58am
I totally hear you on this one. We have a small home and every summer, my alcoholic BIL and his family come over. We do what they want, when they want to do it, not to mention, our house becomes the hang out for the other relatives to come over to visit them. Worst of all, they drink and cause all sorts of havoc. 2 years ago, they got drunk and left our stove on all night. My husband doesn't see this as a problem and we argue everytime they plan on coming out. Last year I instilled a no drinking rule in our home and it was like walking on eggshells between me and them (my husband included) and I became the bad guy because I ruined their fun and made them feel uncomfortable with my "obnoxious" rules. Let them stay at the uncles house.

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