Sister-in-law and her family wants to move in!!!
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|Wed, 09-25-2013 - 11:58pm|
I have a huge problem. My husband's sister called him today and asked if she and her kids could move in once her home is finally foreclosed on. He agreed saying "I'm not going to let my sister, niece, and nephew get thrown out into the street." So now it's inevitable that they will be moving in soon. I am absolutely devasted by this. We just moved to the state a little over a month ago. We had been living in an apt and were completely fed up with apartment living because of the lack of privacy. When DH was offered a job transfer we decided to go for it and start over fresh. We thought that the cheaper cost of living would give us the opportunity to finally move into a house. Well, that's exactly what we did. We moved into a beautiful 3 bedroom home in a great neighborhood. We loved our new home and everything about it and we especially enjoyed our privacy (we currently don't have any children).
We had been hearing about his sister and her money issues for years. She and her husband we're always on the brink of foreclosure. Just a combination of not making enough money (she's a part-time medical biller and her husband is on disability). Even though they could barely pay the mortgage or the other household bills they would always seem to find a way to splurge on expensive materialistic things like a projector screen tv, or new shiny rims for their car. For years, they would ask DH for "loans" or ask for gifts for their children.
Fast forward to today and she informs DH that the foreclosure is going through. I think it's such a coincidence that they were able to eke it out all these years but as soon as we happen to move to the same state, now they are getting thrown out. DH said that he heard that they stop paying the mortgage. The only reason someone would do that is if they knew they had a definitely alternative residence. Guess that's where DH and I come in because they knew he wouldn't let them get thrown into the street.
I feel sick, disappointed, used, and depressed. Looking back, I feel like when they came over to visit that they were just scoping out the place. I had spent hours fixing up the "guest" room because my parents were supposed to visit for my birthday in a few weeks. Now that can't happen. They would have to stay at a hotel. I feel like I fixed the room up and decorated it just for the sister-in-law. When she saw the room she marveled over the setup and the decor.
So basically I went from having a beautiful empty home with just me and DH to having his sister and her two teenage kids moving in. This is complicated by the fact that I never really liked the sister because of her money-leeching ways and by the fact that we don't have kids yets but now we'll be living with 2 teenagers.
Has anyone else experienced anything like this? Any advise on how to make it through without going nuts?