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| Thu, 03-01-2007 - 9:42am |
Ok so mother in law had called me last night, finally. She said she was busy doing something to help a friend that's why we hadn't heard from her lately and she had just checked her emails last night. So everything is fine, I guess maybe I analyze things too much maybe just because she's the in-law, I don't know. Sometimes I think I need to stop looking so deeply into things and just let go and have things flow. However, I still don't like the part that she thinks I'm too tough on my boys, everybody's parenting style is different and we all do what we feel comfortable doing and what we think is best for the kids. I just kinda take things one day at a time with the kids and do what feels right, so I don't know, I guess if it's just not the way she sees things should be done than tough crackers. I think she realizes that, so maybe that is why she had said something to hubby about it and not me. Because things had happened in the past after my first son was born that I had to kinda tell her to back off. Like, when he was 3 months old she went ahead without asking hubby or I what we thought and made a website with pictures of him and his name on it and everything. I was furious, didn't want a website displaying his information like that, what if some crazy nut was to track us down and hurt him? There was also a few other things she had just gone ahead and did that I didn't like and I never held back, would always tell her how I felt about it, so I think that's why she goes to hubby now and not me about things like that. Which I don't think is right either because I'm still their parent also. What do u guys think?

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To me it seems that your MIL is trying really hard to keep you happy and have a relationship with the child, and she is afraid of stepping on your toes a bit. All grandparents think that parents are too harsh..they are notorious for spoiling children. And that is why they should be dealt with some humor.. a sense of humor goes such a long way in life.. it just makes people happier and softer/more compassionate human beings, that's all.
So maybe you could just be more forgiving of her instead of disliking her so much? She just seems like a bungling soul who is trying real hard to keep you happy.
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I am usually not so harsh on people who make honest mistakes out of ignorance. Some of you are, obviously.
Edited 3/1/2007 8:24 pm ET by ingie2004
I was just saying that she did it out of ignorance, and honest mistakes deserve some forgiveness. Well, those are my values at least and since you asked "what do you think" I said what I think. I cant go through life bitter and angry at everyone.
Do you believe that she did it to somehow be vicious to you? Or have your child kidnapped or some sort of malicious reason like that? You dont.. right? You know that she was just being stupid and ignorant. Why all this anger against someone who just doesnt know better? Are you usually this angry against people who are silly or stupid? There are reactions and there are reactions. All actions really dont warrant a reaction.
I am not an angry person. I hardly ever get angry and hold grudges against people like this. Therefore I was just telling you my perspective.
Feel free to discard as "ridiculous"...
:)
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