what is the worst il's have done to you.

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what is the worst il's have done to you.
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Wed, 04-25-2007 - 3:38pm
What is the worst thing your in-laws have done to you or your dh or children? I know there are probably so many. Mine is when mil asked when I was pregnant if I was sure it was dh's child. And on our wedding day when she asked more than once if I was sure I wanted to marry her son. And when I got a post card written in bright red marker that she thinks I have this certian disease. I am sure some of you can top my three!

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Wed, 04-25-2007 - 3:47pm

mines not an IL issue, it's a mom issue. mine thought my DH was in prision - that's the reason for the large arm muscles (nah, couldn't be the fact he used to be a body builder).

she said he married me just for sex (and i though that man's goal was to get the sex without the marriage - i was wrong all these years...).

And that he's keeping me fat & drunk :) well, yes, i'm chubby, but i was before - she hates it that he doesn't yell at me for eating a piece of chocolate whereas that's all she talks about when she calls. as for the drinking... i have wine during one week out of the month when i find out our attempts at getting pregant didn't work.

she also said my MIL hated me because I cook well. She said she just won't let me know she hates me, and is just pretending to be the nicest person on earth.

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Wed, 04-25-2007 - 3:50pm

Well I don't think I can top those, but here are some of the things my mil did. She got mad at me for not telling her that Dh and I eloped. HELLO?! I am not your child. She blamed me for the fact that she and Dh didn't have a close relationship, even though it was that way looong before I came along. She said that I kept him from her. She accused us of keeping our son from her even though he was sick, or when she was sick. She told me what to do all the time. She flipped out when I asked if there was any way she could move her Easter dinner time. I mean FLIPPED out. She said that the name we had chosen for our son sounded like a criminal's name.

There is plenty more, but I am going to cut to the chase and tell you the major ones. She threatened to take just me to court to get visitation to our son. Then a month before we moved she yelled at me and threatened to hit me because I was supposedly late picking up my boys that she WANTED to have spend the weekend. She claimed that I said 9:00 (never gave a time) but I showed up at 9:15. Upset me so much I almost wrecked going home. Then a couple of years later I found out that she said some very nasty things about me to my son. Then when Dh finally cut her off, she threatened to call an attorney or CPS. I am so glad she isn't in our lives anymore. She is a crazy dangerous woman who has gotten worse.

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Wed, 04-25-2007 - 4:47pm
Sorry about your bad experience but atleast now you can maybe have some peace.
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Wed, 04-25-2007 - 7:25pm
Wow. I'll stop complaining about my MIL now.

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Mom to 5: DS-17, DD-16, DD-11, DD-9, DS-7

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Thu, 04-26-2007 - 8:47am
well lets see, When she found out we married (we eloped) told my DH that at least he made an honest woman of me then asked if i was preg. while i was preg with 2nd child told me if i ever leave my husb she would make sure i didnt keep the kids. While I was in labor she told me i was a negligent mom because i spoke on the phone to my family out of state while preparing lunch for the kids. Tried to sneak my child (2 at the time ) in to a prison to visit my bil with out us finding out. Busted her on that before she left. Told my kids i was going to hell because we didnt attend church. Told my kids i was a slut. Told my kids she wasnt sure if 3rd child was related to her or not. Called DCF on me when i moved out from her son (told them children didnt have beds and such while we were getting into new place and getting stuff out of storage. Had her husband break into my house to see what was going on there. Cut my kids off for christmas and birthdays because i moved away. and told kids on a regular basis that i was a bad mommy.
hmm many more but have gotten to the point where they blend together.
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Thu, 04-26-2007 - 9:24am
ok, you win... not much of a prize though, is it?
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Thu, 04-26-2007 - 4:37pm

I don't think I can beat the MIL one, but mine isn't my MIL it's my FIL.

Here's a couple of things he has done ...

1. The day before my wedding he got in my face and started to yell and spit that if he had his way I would never be a part of the family and his daughter in law in front of all my groomsmen and the tuxedo shop workers.

2. The day of my wedding he started to make the biggest scene at our reception in front of all our guest by yelling at mom, me and pushing my brother and telling everyone he paid for the wedding (even though he didn't) and when my DH told him to stop he told my DH he would rather be riding his bike than to be attending our wedding.

3. After the wedding and till this day he makes it known to everyone that I supposedly don't love his son, I'm just with him for the money (my DH makes the same amount as I do). He also lets me everyday that I'm not DH's family that they are his blood family and i never will be.

He has done alot more along with my SIL and they continue to do it day in and day out ... but those are three of them!!

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Thu, 04-26-2007 - 8:27pm
You cut them off, right? Your husband, please tell me, doesn't expect you to put up with that, right?
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Thu, 04-26-2007 - 10:03pm
These are really bad. I'm not married yet, another 3 months but future mil started when future dh announced our engagement. She tried everything to break us up, wouldn't tell the ex-gf about us, keeps friendly with this ex-gf, she insisted on me paying her 2k per month to live in dh's home (yes, HIS home) so dh & I said we'll live in my home so we don't have to deal with her and we'll rent his house, she wanted dh to have a pre-nup so when I agreed she backed down (another attempt to make me run away), and eventually she got hold of my engagement ring and returned it so dh felt so bad he got me a bigger one but that was the last straw...taking back my ring. How dare she.
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Fri, 04-27-2007 - 8:05am
How sad what a pittiful man! That may be some of the blant worst treatment I have ever heard! Good luck!

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