big fight w/sil
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|Thu, 12-23-2004 - 1:18pm|
I am new to this board, and am soooo glad I found it. Perhaps you all can help with my situation.
My sil is very controlling, via emotional "blackmail". The family has enabled this for years. Lately, she has become more and more hateful, negative, and controlling to all of us (mil, fil, dh, her dh, children)
On my child's birthday, she had a big fit due to Christmas. If she couldn't have it her way and at her house, things weren't going to happen. finally, dh and I couldn't take it. Sort of the straw that broke the camel's back. (This type of stuff has been going on for about 12 years). dh told mil that we wouldn't be spending Christmas with them (mil and fil will be w/us on Christmas eve)....he felt we couldn't all have a happy celebration with the hurt feelings.
Well, both dh and I wrote sil to try to work things out. She only turned the tables on us, blaming us for everything and will not try to work anything out until we admit it was our fault (the situation is long and I don't want to bore you all with every detail).
So, my poor il's are stuck in the middle and sil isn't speaking to us. I am okay with that, because I feel she has serious issues that require professional help, but I feel bad for the in-laws.
I guess I wanted to vent and also to find out how to move forward so that we can all at least come together for special occasions.
thanks for the help.