Both parents recently died but Black Widow stepmother wins it all. Help

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Registered: 01-09-2011
Both parents recently died but Black Widow stepmother wins it all. Help
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Thu, 03-03-2011 - 1:17pm

I am writing this on behalf of my significant other who lost his father

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iVillage Member
Registered: 04-19-2004

JMHO and you probably won't want to hear it but I believe your dh needs to go to counseling to help him come to terms w/ his relationships he had with his mother, father, and step mother. I personally think he should let the $$ go. Lawyers are expensive and if his father set it up so all his estate would go to his current wife then that will probably stand (altho i am no lawyer) and if even his ex wife couldn't get it then he probably won't be able to either.

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-27-2011

Hi,

Unless the deceased had a will or trust specifically stating his estate was to be sold and divided or the property left to him in some way, the rule of law is: the surviving spouse inherits. If the deceased failed to make these arrangements before his death and file the proper papers with the courts, there's nothing anyone can do.

It sounds like this woman had this in mind all along. Too bad your SO's deceased father fell for her.

Community Leader
Registered: 05-19-2008

I'm no lawyer but based on what you've said a few thoughts come to mind.

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-10-1999

It sounds like your SO has had a hard life.

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Community Leader
Registered: 06-16-1998

This is a very sad situation for your SO. Like the others said, the father made his own choices. Yes there's plenty of blamed to be placed on the stepmother but not all of it.

There is also a good possibility that the father put his/their estate into a living trust (to avoid probate) with stepmother as trustee which is why there was not a distribution of his estate when he died. When she dies your SO may find out the instructions of the trust. I mention this because stepmother seems to be demonized for "taking everything" when the father died, and maybe she did, or maybe there is a legal document dictating what happens.

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iVillage Member
Registered: 10-19-1999

I was thinking the same thing.

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-13-2009
Sounds like your SO has had a tough time... sorry.

But what's up with the white trash remarks? They're white trash because they're blue collar and one is a postman? The mother is white trash because she stayed home and didn't have an outside job? Really?

 

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-24-2005

Wow, didn't realize that blue collar meant white trash.

 


 


 

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-19-2004

Thanks for noticing the trash comment - I thought it was just me.

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-11-2007

I have had to really bite my tongue on this one.

Jets Siggy

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