Email them? Sudden, cold attitude towards me.. Were always supportive

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Email them? Sudden, cold attitude towards me.. Were always supportive
Fri, 12-17-2010 - 7:54pm

X husband and I have been divorced 1 1/2 years. We have a 4 year old special needs child.

His Father and stepmother have always been supportive of me in the situation

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Registered: 06-11-2007

Are you 100% certain that their attitude is about you?

Jets Siggy

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Registered: 01-03-2004


i think Lizzy has some good points and you might consider those before you do anything.

That said, you say at the bottom of your post that you're taking your Ex back to court to get the child support he was ordered to pay and to gain sole custody. Well, you might have stumbled onto the real reason for the sudden chill. As long as you "went along" with their son's deadbeat games (or it looked like you were "going along to get along") they were OK with things the way they were. Well, here you go, asking for what's rightfully yours (money) and for the full legal responsibility for your son, because your EX hasn't shown he wants it. So now YOU are the villian! How dare you demand accountability for your son's father! How dare you not play their little games and allow yourself to be manipulated!

Your EX could be in prison for murder and your in-laws would act the same way. It doesn't matter a court has ordered your EX to pay support for his kid. All they see is someone trying to hold their kid accountable and obviously they don't like it.

Hang in there. It will probably get worse before it has a chance to get better. I hope you gain sole custody of your son. You may not see any child support right away but the one thing I do know: your EX will have to pay eventually.