FML

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Registered: 10-23-2007
FML
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Wed, 04-27-2011 - 3:44pm

I'm just venting but in reality I could realllly use some anxiety relief medicine.

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Registered: 06-11-2007
In reply to: sugarrush66
Wed, 04-27-2011 - 4:58pm

I don't know what to tell

Jets Siggy

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Registered: 04-19-2004
In reply to: sugarrush66
Wed, 04-27-2011 - 5:20pm

bizliz - lol I love reading your posts. I say have drinks and dinner AT the bowling alley. lol

OP - I say lie like

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Registered: 10-23-2007
In reply to: sugarrush66
Wed, 04-27-2011 - 5:21pm
Haha, he's turning 21 and is pretty excited about being able to legally drink (I think) so he wants to hang on the beach with a beer all weekend long. God writing that out sounds like a disaster waiting to happen. NOT my idea of fun because well he's a nice guy but I don't want to say he is a loose cannon but maybe half a loose cannon? LOL. Gah, I can't explain him. I haven't really been around him in 2 years so maybe he has changed??

And yes BYOB big time.
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Registered: 10-23-2007
In reply to: sugarrush66
Wed, 04-27-2011 - 5:35pm
If we compromise and do what DH is proposing (leave Saturday, come back Monday) we would essentially be staying maybe 36 hours because of the drive there. It sucks wasting a vacation day on this but it sounds like the lesser of 2 evils and what would keep us there less.

And for the birthday party, I agree, short and sweet but it will be a 7 hour drive there. I think I will tell DH that I would only be comfortable staying a day if his mom is there but if she is not there we can stay longer because yes, 3 days is ridiculous. Especially having to spend it around her because when she gets drunk it's not fun.
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Registered: 10-23-2007
In reply to: sugarrush66
Thu, 04-28-2011 - 9:52am
DH and I talked last night and going down Saturday and coming back Sunday is our plan for the first trip. I told him that I had no problem going but how long we would stay would depend on whether his mom would be there or not and since I know he wants to go I wouldn't be comfortable with more than a day if she is there; if she doesn't plan on going I would consider staying longer. So that is our plan for right now; the birthday party, even though it will be here quicker than we can snap our finger five times, is aways away and other than knowing where the party will be- we don't know any other info.
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Registered: 05-19-2008
In reply to: sugarrush66
Thu, 04-28-2011 - 4:03pm

I guess it is because I'm getting older - but why are you driving long distances for a birthday?

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Registered: 10-23-2007
In reply to: sugarrush66
Thu, 04-28-2011 - 4:31pm
With the exception of the last two years where we haven't been invited we've always gone to nephews birthday- he's at the age where it's family parties but I imagine in a few years he will reach the point where it will be his friends. It has also been 9 months since the last visit and with GMIL health and having an event to attend (we aren't visiting just to visit, we are there to celebrate the birthday and visit with GMIL), that is what we are doing.

The friend is actually female and MIL will not be here- the two are friends and gossip massively and all that fun stuff. All this friend has been told is crap by MIL, how she's been treated horribly, hasn't done anything wrong and it seems like this friend supports her. You should see her FB, it's laughable and makes you want to puke at the same time. I was sent into overload yesterday with the adults birthday news; the May visit is enough then to be told we have to deal with the friend in June and then the adult bday party in July? That's a lot of time with people I'd rather not be around. And lovely Aunt Flo visited today and her visits are hell for me.

I have a butt ton of leave (3 months or so), I just don't want to use it to spend time with MIL, kwim? I usually need a vacation after dealing with her, LOL. I'm taking it but we won't be spending it with her. And our money isn't unlimited, you are right on that. The trip for the adult bday has not been set or anything like that; I just told DH that if his mom is going to be there I am not comfortable staying more than a day there because I know he wants to celebrate with his cousin (all the kids used to be really close and the drama with MIL has kind of divided everyone).

And yes the trips are long but unfortunately we both live several hours away from our families- it is something we have had to deal with for several years now.
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Registered: 04-17-2011
In reply to: sugarrush66
Thu, 04-28-2011 - 5:38pm

OMG, I feel your pain. 3 times in 3 months? Seven hour drives each time? I would totally make DH my designated driver and drink all the way there!

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Registered: 10-23-2007
In reply to: sugarrush66
Fri, 04-29-2011 - 9:18am
The first trip will be about 5-6 hours, the friend visit- she is coming here so we do not have to travel thankfully but the 2nd trip in July is further on than DH's family so it will be about 7-8 hours.
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Registered: 05-19-2008
In reply to: sugarrush66
Sun, 05-01-2011 - 2:18pm

Hi sugarrush66,

Makes sense as to why you are willing to make the drive.

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