Issue with boyfriend and his sister...

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Registered: 06-24-2011
Issue with boyfriend and his sister...
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Fri, 06-24-2011 - 1:28pm

Ok, so my boyfriend and his sister have a very very close relationship, sometime more close than I find comfortable.

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Registered: 03-23-2011
Fri, 06-24-2011 - 4:11pm

I would trust what my gut is telling me.

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Registered: 10-23-2007
Fri, 06-24-2011 - 4:56pm
I'm with Chia and would listen to your gut.
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Registered: 06-24-2011
Fri, 06-24-2011 - 6:25pm

I've known for awhile now that I need to leave this relationship, it's just a very hard thing to do.

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Registered: 05-19-2008
Mon, 06-27-2011 - 10:56am

My thought is that your focus on his relationship with his sister is secondary and you should focus on his lack of committment and how badly he treats you - the mother of his children first!

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Registered: 06-24-2011
Tue, 06-28-2011 - 1:11pm

Thank you for your words... I actually had a very long and detailed talk with my boyfriend this past weekend and told him I wanted to break up and everything about what he said about his sister and how I felt and he told me all this stuff about working it out and staying together.

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Registered: 12-17-2011
Sat, 12-17-2011 - 9:49pm

You need to get out of that relationship and FAST! You are the mother of his children, and his partner in life- there is absolutely no reason for him to have been in the birthing room with her! Girl, you deserve better than that. I have had my share of my boyfriend's sister being too clingy and I am ready to leave. She has to have all the girl version of all the clothes he has like wearing

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-28-2007
Fri, 12-23-2011 - 4:29pm

What is it with grown men and their attachments to other women such as their mothers and sisters?

Focusing on his relationship with his sister will cause you more stress in the long run.

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Registered: 04-20-2008
Sun, 01-22-2012 - 8:48pm
How is he with you children? Does he favor his sisters child over his own? Does his attachment to her hurt his relationship with them? That would be a huge deal breaker for me.

Get both of you into marriage counseling, maybe a third party will make him see what a wierd relationship with her he has