MIL's coming to marriage counseloring with us

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Registered: 10-11-2005
MIL's coming to marriage counseloring with us
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Mon, 09-26-2011 - 3:22am

Yes I'm dead serious about this too. So if you got an oppurtinuty to talk with MIL /other in-laws with a couselor helping you what would you want to say to them?

I'm going to tell her that 1. I'm taking my power back from her. I'm no longer going to allow her to bully me or dh. 2. she must cut apporn strings 3. no more calling me names {white trailor trash, a b!tch} 4. she can NO LONGER plan parties/holidays

~~Sam stitches well with others, runs with scissors in her pocket. Cheerful and stupid.
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Registered: 05-02-2002
I'm no longer going to let you say something to me when people are out of ear shot and not call you on it, for everyone to hear.

You can not call your son only when you need computer help and forget him the rest of the time.

I was your sons choice, deal with it. He's happy, isn't that what you always say, you just want him to be happy?
iVillage Member
Registered: 05-02-2002
Sam:

How did the counseling go?
iVillage Member
Registered: 10-11-2005
We haven't done it yet. DH has to talk to her about it. He's in charge of asking her to come. It should be soon I think, maybe before the holidays
~~Sam stitches well with others, runs with scissors in her pocket. Cheerful and stupid.
iVillage Member
Registered: 04-14-2006
I hope that the counseling went well.

I tried asking my FIL (I have problems with him rather than MIL) to counseling several years ago, but he laughed and told me if there were any problems, they were my fault, so I was the only one who needed counseling. I went by myself to discuss that (plus some other stuff). I felt much better after working out my stuff, but to this day don't really have much of a relationship with him. There were lots of things I would have liked to say, but when I tried discussing them with him, the only response I received was "I can say whatever I want to you, you don't matter". So I realized after this that there was no point discussing stuff with him, no point in trying, so now I don't. DH manages the relationship on behalf of all of us, fewer problems for me.

Best wishes for the counseling.
Community Leader
Registered: 05-19-2008

Yes, counseling will only work for people who are wanting to participate and work things out.