Needy future IL

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Registered: 02-03-2005
Needy future IL
Mon, 02-21-2011 - 6:21pm

My future MIL is so needy... it drives me crazy.

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Registered: 05-19-2008
Tue, 02-22-2011 - 12:55pm

First, before you get married, I highly recommend you both talk to counselor about this.

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Registered: 06-16-1998
Wed, 02-23-2011 - 8:48pm

"I wish I could say something to him but I have to keep my mouth shut since it's not my business."

I think that you do have to say something to him, at least how much of this you are willing to put up with. Because once you are legally married it will be your business and your money and maybe your home. In marriage you will need to be a team, both on the same page about how to deal with his awful family. You are angry about it now, you'll still be angry when you're married, and that anger can affect the overall marriage--especially if you have kids. Can you see yourself putting up with these things for the next 30 or 40 years? If your fiance doesn't change the way that he relates to his family that could happen.

Like the previous poster said, you two should get some couples counseling on how to deal with this issue. And don't get married until you are satisfied with the resolution of the problems.

Best of luck.

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Registered: 01-03-2004
Thu, 02-24-2011 - 10:31am


Hi. I agree with the other posters that you'd both benefit from some counseling about how to deal with DF's family. They'll always be there and their problems will always be the same. It's good to get some help in dealing with that because it's not going to go away!

I also wanted to say to you and your DF: DO NOT under ANY circumstances

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Registered: 02-14-2004
Fri, 02-25-2011 - 2:05pm

Drama queens LOVE drama, and it sounds as if your fiance's family is full of them.