She strikes again

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Registered: 10-23-2007
She strikes again
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Mon, 01-31-2011 - 11:46am

We found out late last night that my husbands grandmother has been in the hospital and MIL couldn't be bothered to let DH know.

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Registered: 05-19-2008
Mon, 01-31-2011 - 1:07pm

I'm sorry for your DH's grandmother and hope she will be okay.

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Registered: 10-23-2007
Mon, 01-31-2011 - 1:33pm
DH has asked BIL to keep us updated. But MIL has this grip over everyone- I hope BIL can see around that and not be her puppet. I'm having lunch with DH so I'll be asking if he's heard anything else.
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Registered: 10-24-2005
Tue, 02-01-2011 - 10:17am

I am sorry to read this.

 


 


 

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Registered: 10-23-2007
Mon, 02-07-2011 - 9:29am
After a week in the hospital, she is now home. DH called the house yesterday and *someone* told him she wasn't accepting phone calls. Whether this is true or not, IDK. It just seems weird and he was definitely down after that yesterday.
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Registered: 04-17-2011
Sun, 04-17-2011 - 9:13pm

This is my greatest fear. I have a very manipulative MIL too, and we had such a falling out last year that we no longer talk (she suggest my SO divorce me, and than offered to pay for it, grrrrr). This was very trying at the time because me and SO (and our daughter) were living with SO's grandfather at the time, because he is old and in failing health and my SO is a nurse. MY MIL is so stinking crazy that she kept everything churned up until we were forced to leave SO's granfather's house (she owns it because of cheating Medicare) because she would not leave us alone. We have not spoken in 7 months, which has been FANTASTIC, I must say. I don't care if I never see her again and will go out of my way to make sure I don't have to.

But we both fear that she will do her voodoo magic on his sibs and encourage them to withhold information on Grandfather when he dies. SO loves his grandfather (who practicially raised him, that's how crappy his stay-at-home mom was), and so do I. He has always been very kind and generous with us, and it broke our hearts to have to leave him, but sometimes you gotta bail ship to save yourselves, which is what we did.

I hope your SO's sibs will hold the line and keep you all in the loop about your GMIL. It sucks when your parents or in-laws are crazy. Does she have other relatives who might keep you informed? A sibling? Neice or nephew? Neighbor? I'd try to find other chains of communication, just in case.