Thanksgiving & holiday plans controlled by MIL

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Registered: 05-24-2005
Thanksgiving & holiday plans controlled by MIL
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Wed, 11-24-2010 - 12:07am

My DH's family gatherings like Thanksgiving

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Registered: 10-19-2008

The first thought that came to mind was "she can't live forever."

One Question- Does she do this with every holiday or just Thanksgiving?

My advice is to put up with doing it her way once a year.

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Registered: 04-19-2004

Why not bring a regular size side dish.

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Registered: 05-24-2005

Hi JMHO,

Thanks for your suggestions.

MIL tries to do this

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Hi imotherothers,

Yes, toss and serve aluminum pans are the way to go. I like the idea of people being up front and if they have other plans for the main meal, being honest is better than saying they will be there and not showing.

It turns out SIL and BF will be at a 2PM restaurant reservation with

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Registered: 10-19-1999

Next year if the same thing happens take it easy on yourself. I don't mind Thanksgiving dinner because it is pretty easy. Like someone else said buy canned veggies (one kind only)

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Hi All,

This morning I really feel relief that Thanksgiving 2010 is behind us. MIL did a nice job on the turkey breast, thighs and leg. Thanks to DH keeping an eye on the oven, the main dish came out perfectly. Her sweet potatoes were good and veggies ok. My dishes - the stuffing and green been casserole (per Trader's Joes recipe) came out great. Also, the almost from scratch pumpkin pie was good. MIL's apple was also ok.

It's the SIL and BF that need to go! They did show up late around 5PM

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Registered: 10-19-2008
Congrats on making it through and making the best of it.

My only other advice is ....

Any dinner out should be dutch (You and DH paying for yours & SIL and BF paying theirs) with you splitting MIL's tab between you b/c of her fixed income (I'm assuming).

There is no way you should have to pay for BF's boozing.