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|Thu, 12-02-2004 - 8:06pm|
Without going into all the details, i have been living with my partner for >12 months and together over 2 yrs. My relationship with the IL's has always been rocky. Last Xmas MIl and Dh had a huge fight which hurt him very badly. At the start of the year, i was told i was not invited along to MIL b'day. This was at a point when we were all supposed to be making an effort to get along. Frankly, i told her exactly what i thought of her and haven't spoken to her since except when she has picked fights with dh or me.
My Dh is a bit of a mummys boy (only child) and claims to have a close relationship with her. Since we've been dating this relationship has changed and they always fight over me. He has to visit her every week for dinner (to which i have never been invited) and she is always undermining 'us' and our relationship. I have told him he needs to change the way he deals with her, but he always tries to avoid conflict with her- so nothing changes
I know it hurts him that i dont get along with the IL, but personally i dont care about them. I've accepted that my relationship with the IL will never be friendly and i try to do what is best for DH and I. This year for Xmas, we thought if both our families came to us on Xmas day we wouldnt be alienating anyone. The IL decided to go out for lunch instead, but not without making Dh extremely guilty for not going with them. Now they want us to get together on Boxing day. I dont want to go as i hate MIL and i know she will end up picking a fight, if not that day later on. I'm getting pressured from Dh to go as he wants the "happy family" and doesnt / wont accept that it will never be.