jeepers! What do you think about this?
I don't think they can blame on outside influences.
I wouldn't either.
I can only judge by the people that I am close to in my own personal life. That would be my and J's children.
Things haven't changed that much I don't think, it's just that the "things" are different now. Relationships, both marriage and friendships and co-workers, have always been difficult at times.
There has always been competition in young people and marriages. There's the buying of homes and cars and furnishing the homes and whose kid is the most achieved and what vacations you go on and so forth. That's how it was when I was a young married and continued into my second marriage and I'm 66 years old, so that was a long time ago. I hated the competition, hated the way it made me feel! I prefered to hang out with couples who appeared to be on the same level of acquiring stuff as we were so I didn't have to think about it. That's what our kids are doing today too.
Taking from the article, this is how I see it compared to what it was when I was at that age........
Fun facts to know and tell about people ages 35 to 44, the time a midlife crisis is most likely to hit:In addition to being the loneliest of all age groups, they're the
most dissatisfied with their marriage and unhappiest at work. The loneliest?? Really?? How do they know that?!! I was very lonely in my 20's and 30's until I finally divorced my 1st husband after 6 years of abuse when I saw the abuse begin to affect our little girl. I believe that if there's a problem, fix it. If it can't be fixed, move on. I you make a conscious decision to continue to live in an abusive, or whatever the difficulty may be, situation; then suck it up and find some kind of joy in your life. If you're lonely, reach out to others. This holds true for any age group and always has been. How do the statistic takers know that this particular age group is the "most" dissatisfied? This group may just be more outspoken than in past years, due to better access to poll taking on computers and such.
As far as work, decide what is making you unhappy at work and then fix it..or change it..or change jobs if it cannot be resolved. Yes, it's hard to find jobs today; but that doesn't mean you can't keep looking until something opens up, even if it takes years.
Years ago, some people stuck with jobs that they hated because that was the work ethic that our parents taught us. That all changed, though, when more and more job choices opened up. A lot of those choices came with the computer age. In today's world, it's okay to change jobs for that may be the only way to get ahead if ahead or up is your heart's desire.
-- 21 percent say they feel lonely a lot of the time, compared with just
13 percent over age 65, which is a time in life that many traditionally
associate with loneliness. I don't see that being any different than it was many years ago. Loneliness can happen if you're in a bad marriage, or you're not married yet at that age and you want to be, or you don't want to get married, but all of your friends are and you feel alone, or you don't have any close friends, or perhaps your spouse has died. It's always been that way and probably always will be.
-- 28 percent said they have left a job because of a difficult relationship with a colleague or boss, the highest in any age group. Only 28%? Good! Having to work under additional stress than the demands of deadlines and such, because of difficult co-workers or bosses can make you physically ill. Some of those difficult relationships can be lived with, while others cannot, nor should they be. It would be best to find another job first, though, before moving on.
-- 20 percent have suffered depression because of relationship problems. That is perfectly normal at any age and if it's only 20%, that's not so bad.
-- 33 percent want to reduce their working hours, the highest of any age group. Hey, I'm with them on that one!! I was never a career minded person, always hated working, just wanted to be a homemaker and mother. Work interferred with the things I really wanted to do. It's something we have to do to survive though, so we do it. If 33% can reduce their work hours and still live a comfortable life, then go for it! If you have higher aspirations, though, you know what you have to do. They may "want" to reduce their work hours, but they probably know they realistically cannot.
-- The majority of respondents said that they were having sex
between one and three times a week. Hooray for the majority!! Fully 20 percent said they had sex
less than once a year and 8.3 percent did not have sex not at all,
compared with those aged 45 to 54 where just 10 percent had no sex at
all. There can be a variety of reasons for this. If it's a problem for them and they're not seeking answers and help, then they'll just have to live with it.
-- 40 percent said they were satisfied with their sex life, while 20
percent said it was "adequate" and 10 percent admitted it was
"disappointing." Fewer than eight percent described their sex life as
"mind-blowing." That means that 60% are satisfied or it's adequate..that's a pretty good percentage!! For those who are disappointed, find out why and see if it can be improved. If they choose not to try to improve it or they cannot seem to be able to improve..well..unfortunately, not everyone is good in bed! The disappointment may be stemming from more than just the sex and that may affect their time in bed too. I wonder if any of those in the "mind blowing" 8% are senior citizens, and if they are, I want to know how they handle it physically with all the aging aches and pains and such!! lol