MIL or Root Canal : you choose.. ;O)

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MIL or Root Canal : you choose.. ;O)
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Mon, 10-18-2010 - 10:36am
Poll: 51 Percent of You Would Rather Clean Than Be with Your Mother-in-Law

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We're not saying people don't love spending every waking moment with their mothers-in-law, but let's put it this way: they enjoy scrubbing, waxing, dusting and washing more.

So much so that 51 percent of respondents to an iVillage poll -- held in honor of Mother-in-Law Day this October 24 -- said they would rather clean the house than spend the day with their MIL. And while they might be willing to ask their mothers-in-law about, say, which furniture polish to use, looks like that's about the only piece of advice they're interested in getting from her. A whopping 76 percent said they wouldn't ask the woman who raised their spouse for parenting advice, and a resounding 83 percent said they wouldn't go to her for marital advice.

Along those same lines, 96 percent of poll takers said they also wouldn't talk with their MIL about their sex life with her son. No surprise there. (Though we have to wonder: Who are the 4 percent who would?)

But apparently mom-by-marriage is good for at least some things: 64 percent of iVillagers said they would trust her to watch the kids. Perhaps the other 36 percent suspect that she is feeding them sweets and letting them stay up way past bedtime.

Which leads us to a question about who is more annoying than your mother-in-law. The highest vote getter was Kate Gosselin at 26 percent, followed by the entire cast of Jersey Shore, Elizabeth Hasselbeck and Snooki.

But other options weren't all that appealing either. When asked who they would rather have as their MIL, the top choice was Hillary Clinton at 17 percent, followed by Kris Kardashian Jenner, Sarah Palin, Joan Rivers and Dina Lohan.

Still, it won't be necessary to hide the knives at Thanksgiving dinner: 72 percent of people rated their relationship with their mothers-in-law as fair to excellent, with only 28 saying it was "bad" or "terrible."

So the news isn't all grim. Well, except for the 28 percent of people who instead of hanging out with their MIL would rather have a root canal.

Ouch.



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Registered: 02-25-2000
Mon, 10-18-2010 - 12:24pm

I've had two mil's and would rather have a root canal than spend a whole day with either of them. I've had root canals and they're quick, take pain away, and not bad at all. My former mil's, however, were not nearly as easy as a root canal!! I would also prefer scrubbing my toilets than spending time with either of my former mil's!

#1..Odd woman who did not have the ability to carry on even a simple conversation.
#2..Low on the intellectual scale..a fact, not an insult..therefore, unable to carry on a conversation above the most simplest of topics.
#3..Died before I met my husband.

They were both annoying and boring. They both had zero fasion sense, so a fun shopping trip was out. They both had no cultural sense or interest, so visiting museums or galleries or anything similar were of no interest to them and I had no idea where to go or what to do with them other than the little shopping I did with #2 just for her needs. #1 hated all restaurants. #2 was only comfortable in the simplest of restaurants, like fast foods.

#1 was the worst and in the six long painful years that I was married to her abusive son, I never spent any time at all alone with her.

#2 was a good woman and okay to be with for short periods as long as I kept it very simple. I would take her shopping to buy blouses and slacks for herself when needed and we'd go to the food court at the mall for lunch. That was all right, but I could not handle it often.

#1 broke our rules..like feeding our DD foods that she was allergic to and making her sick.

#2 did okay with our DD's and we did leave them with her from time to time for a day or part of a day.

There is nothing in the world that I would have asked their advice on.

I am a MIL, but I only have DD's, so have a DSonIL. My other DSonIL is divorced from our family now. I have spent alone time with each of them and we get/got along very well. We didn't do anything together as far as going somewhere together just the two of us, it was just one-on-one conversation that was interesting and enjoyable.

I don't know what it's like to have a son or DDIL. If I had a son and DDIL and she was enjoyable to be with, I would love that addition to our family.

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Registered: 02-07-2001
Mon, 10-18-2010 - 4:45pm

I'll take my MIL any day over a root canal, cleaning or my own mother.

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Registered: 03-20-2001
Mon, 10-18-2010 - 4:50pm
HI Twoki, that is really nice to hear!
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Registered: 03-20-2001
Mon, 10-18-2010 - 4:53pm
D.... hmmmmmm I used to ask my MIL advice on cooking foods that my dh liked, she did teach me many many dishes and we used to cook together,, at the beginning that is. Now I get her advice on everything even though I don't ask for it, nor do I want to hear it or want it, go figure.
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Registered: 04-24-2000
Mon, 10-18-2010 - 7:32pm

Well, I must say that I had the GREATEST mil ever. ( & fil)

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Registered: 02-07-2001
Mon, 10-18-2010 - 8:43pm

It sounds like the two of you had a very special relationship.

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Registered: 12-09-2003
Tue, 10-19-2010 - 2:23am

Oh man .. I am a MIL to two absolutely wonderful young women who were smart enough to marry my sons LOL!

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Registered: 03-20-2001
Tue, 10-19-2010 - 5:06am
wonderful to hear Bunny,,,,
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Registered: 03-20-2001
Tue, 10-19-2010 - 5:10am
Me too Hilary, I'm now a MIL and afraid I'm not being a very good one. I try though.
fine line between what you should and should not say. I guess the "less is more" rule works best here. I just can't picture you as being overbearing in any way.

I'm not sure but you know other American accents , does your dh have an accent (southern drawl?) (not to him of course,, we are the ones with the accents.. )
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Registered: 02-07-2001
Tue, 10-19-2010 - 9:02am
I'm sure you are a VERY GOOD MIL, Suzan. It is hard to stand back and observe, but it will get easier. Just have to remember we were all in that position at some point of our lives and what we did or did not appreciate.

I plan on using the old mantra that I used with my own two kids, "The welcome mat is out, the door is always open and you know where to find me."

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