MIL or Root Canal : you choose.. ;O)

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Mon, 10-18-2010 - 10:36am
Poll: 51 Percent of You Would Rather Clean Than Be with Your Mother-in-Law

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We're not saying people don't love spending every waking moment with their mothers-in-law, but let's put it this way: they enjoy scrubbing, waxing, dusting and washing more.

So much so that 51 percent of respondents to an iVillage poll -- held in honor of Mother-in-Law Day this October 24 -- said they would rather clean the house than spend the day with their MIL. And while they might be willing to ask their mothers-in-law about, say, which furniture polish to use, looks like that's about the only piece of advice they're interested in getting from her. A whopping 76 percent said they wouldn't ask the woman who raised their spouse for parenting advice, and a resounding 83 percent said they wouldn't go to her for marital advice.

Along those same lines, 96 percent of poll takers said they also wouldn't talk with their MIL about their sex life with her son. No surprise there. (Though we have to wonder: Who are the 4 percent who would?)

But apparently mom-by-marriage is good for at least some things: 64 percent of iVillagers said they would trust her to watch the kids. Perhaps the other 36 percent suspect that she is feeding them sweets and letting them stay up way past bedtime.

Which leads us to a question about who is more annoying than your mother-in-law. The highest vote getter was Kate Gosselin at 26 percent, followed by the entire cast of Jersey Shore, Elizabeth Hasselbeck and Snooki.

But other options weren't all that appealing either. When asked who they would rather have as their MIL, the top choice was Hillary Clinton at 17 percent, followed by Kris Kardashian Jenner, Sarah Palin, Joan Rivers and Dina Lohan.

Still, it won't be necessary to hide the knives at Thanksgiving dinner: 72 percent of people rated their relationship with their mothers-in-law as fair to excellent, with only 28 saying it was "bad" or "terrible."

So the news isn't all grim. Well, except for the 28 percent of people who instead of hanging out with their MIL would rather have a root canal.

Ouch.



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Thu, 10-21-2010 - 12:18pm

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Thu, 10-21-2010 - 4:03am
re: thanking my MIL..... I can just see myself doing that... so not. When I'm here I am sooo thankful for caller ID. We don't speak often (when we do though, I'm very polite as MY mom taught me)
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Wed, 10-20-2010 - 7:29pm

Suzan....See, I knew it!! You are already becoming a wonderful MIL!! You are taking your responsibility seriously, are very intuitive and wise! With your ddil's own mother far away, I hope her love for you will continue to grow and you'll be great friends as well!! Hopefully, she will call you too. That was always hard for me for I am way not a telephone person.

Of course you do have, though, a very good example in your own mil in how to NOT be a mil!! You might want to thank her for that next time you see her!! LOL!! JK

Now, hopefully, your husband can learn how to "soften up" with your gentle and wise guidance..lol!

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Wed, 10-20-2010 - 7:02pm

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Wed, 10-20-2010 - 4:40pm
What me ? an accent? Silly girl! Well I'm not speaking the Queen's English as a British friend of my dh is constantly telling me.... the nerve of him.. hmph!

Yes, we've definitely lost our sons.... I'm hoping to a clever and caring girl and time will tell. ;O)
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Wed, 10-20-2010 - 4:37pm
I'll do Ok, and i'm learning to "zip it" real quick. My dh is not however and that effects both of us... but he'll learn too. It's a bit hard for her now as she's in a foreign country, doesn't speak the language very well yet , so I have tried to introduce her to various places that I like to go and places that I feel she'd enjoy also (bookstores, hobby shops for her beading, cafes that my ds doesn't frequent, and the use of the public transportation, we also meet and walk coffee in the forest etc... or we are the ones who take diva to the vet or elsewhere, and afterwards we usually stop in a new cafe, we bought her bulbs to plant in their terrace, she liked that and my ds would never think to do that. I listen to the vet and then translate the various options and let her make the decision. I try not to call too often, she is very very independent (a good thing) , and early on ds asked me not to suffocate her (which I had absolutley no intention of doing as I have my own busy routine.) So for now all has worked out in my opinion OK. I do think she is very intimidated by my dh, I told him to "soften" it up a bit. ;) She's also been ill this past week so I did call each morning to make sure she was OK, if she needed something, or if she'd like to sleep I'd take coffee over here for the afternoon,,, that kind of stuff.. but normally I won't call but once a week. She knows my phone number also, ;O)
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Wed, 10-20-2010 - 3:05pm
twoki wrote:
I plan on using the old mantra that I used with my own two kids, "The welcome mat is out, the door is always open and you know where to find me."

I like this and agree!

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Wed, 10-20-2010 - 3:00pm
Danny does have a slight accent to me but in Arkansas they say he has an Australian accent LOL! All these ladies here have accents if you ask me .. even you!

I agree 100% with you on that *fine line*. As much as I love both my ddils it takes time to build up a friendship/closeness if you kwim. In some ways we lose our sons when they marry.
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Wed, 10-20-2010 - 2:55pm
Want to know something funny. Well, not funny really! I have no idea what root canal is but hearing all about it *here* makes me shudder. I asked my dentist last time if I would ever need it and he said "not likely". What can I say but PHEW!
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Tue, 10-19-2010 - 2:11pm
I use that mantra also. It can mean I won't see them in months... LOL
I think also something to consider is: we can only be a great MIL if the dil or sil are also great and willing to accept us .. (nothing to do with me, just in general)

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