I dislike this time of year I wish the holidays are over soon

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I dislike this time of year I wish the holidays are over soon
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Sun, 12-25-2011 - 7:20pm

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Hello there,
you are not alone in your feelings about the holidays. I have to say though , that I think your feelings are bound to too separate things.
First, the fact that you feel you have no friends. One needs to analyze that and try to figure out a way to enjoy the company of others... say work friends or friends you meet from other family members etc.
Secondly is your feeling about the holiday. Not everyone enjoys the holidays and not everyone celebrates the holidays for one reason or the other. It doesn't have to be celebrated, and certainly even for those who do celebrate it (XMAS or New Year's), it can become boring doing the same thing year in and out even with family. when I was growing up, we did not celebrate New Year's, I never went out on that night and usually just watched some shows on TV, talked to my mom or brother etc and that was it. I'm not a late night person, so I don't care,,, and I don't see any huge advantage to staying up past midnight just to say happy New Year's . LOL
You have to do what you want to be doing, and not worry about being left out (by not going to NYC with your sister, she has her own life with her dh and it can not always include you.. KWIM?) My suggestion is (if you are asking for one) to find something that you personally like to do on the 31st like movies or reading or whatever and do that... even if it's alone doesn't matter, it's just a night like every other night of the year. Nothing more and nothing to feel down about. ;O)

Nice talking to you, and thank you for stopping by, I'm sure the others on the board will be around today or tomorrow to offer some words of help and myabe some ideas..... as for your friend,, it's a hard time for her and maybe she doesn't want to go out celebrating but perhaps she'd be OK with just renting a dvd and having some chips and snacks at your place , talking and being together. Something easy. Who knows.
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If you think that people are all out and partying it up during the holidays, then that is a major misconception.

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As far as going to the movies on the 31st, Here where I live ( I dont live in the US)

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Twoki, my ds also enjoys just staying in and enjoying a movie on TV than going out. He likes to cook, so he dreams up a meal , buys the ingredients and cooks a nice meal and then settles in to enjoy the New Year's evening.
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Hi AGain,
It's just a state of mind, if you want to go out, then do so. You can reserve a seat for yourself at a restaurant and go. I have done that before, and while eating alone may be doesn't sound very interesting, I had my nice meal and the waiters were all very pleasant and I therefore had a nice conversation with them. As I said before, you could also invite your friend home to watch a moive at your house. Believe me, new Year's is highly over rated.

Please tell us something about yourself,,, where do you live & work and what are your hobbies ?
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Hi. I understand the feelings of sadness the holidays can bring, especially when you feel you have no friends. I've been in that state of mind. But over the years I've found that


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Ann that is very insightful and it's made me think about a few things. I don't have "friends" here as most of the ones I did have back in the 80's left when the military pulled back 250,000 troops from Europe in 1989. Others have retired and now live in italy or went back to the states. Yes, I have my dh and ds, but they work so most of the day I spend the time alone , sometimes talking to myself. Does it make me unhappy? At times a bit lonely , Coffee gets tired of my ramblings, but no I'm not unhappy about it. I stick with Abe: most people are about as happy as they make up their minds to be..... I decided not to be unhappy , but to use my time in a way that makes my day fulfilled. I have decided to continue to look for some charitable work a couple times a week, and that charity will go for those who benefit from my effort but also for myself , as I'll be around people and can talk. (thanks for that thought) I too, go alone to places, and while it did take a bit of getting used to (like a couple times only) I don't mind it now. If I'm in a cafe, well I don't mind smiling at the lady next to me and saying hi. etc etc etc. Like you I'm not the most outgoing person around, even though I'm pretty outgoing here on the board but I'm not all that much by myself or in a crowd. But I did it and really glad I did.
I hope our comments help out chicle even a tad bit.
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Hello. Well most of u say u rather spend time alone too, the difference is that most of u are married so is ok and I understand.

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Hi there ,
my only suggestion this year then is to grin and bear it and spend some quality time with your parents and NEXT year, come September, book a cruise or a week's trip to someplace exciting over the holidays. You would be going alone perhaps if no one is able to accompany you but you won't be alone over the holidays. Plan and think in advance ,,, one can book a cruise now for the following holidays.... think along those lines. Try not to sit around mulling this over and over , it won't change for this year as we're talking about 4 days from now, but start saving and planning for next XMAS season. ;O)

Now, Chicle, please tell us where you are from and what your hobbies are. I'm Suzan and I live in Germany and I like to read, do jigsaw puzzles, garden, watch movies, do sukuo and go to cafes and "people watch". And you?
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Well yes I know that this year