Need to ramble about something

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Need to ramble about something
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Mon, 09-12-2011 - 8:22pm

I haven't told my brother and sister about my thyroid surgery.


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Mon, 09-12-2011 - 10:49pm
It isn't good for you to stress out this close to surgery, Ann. I think you are right in just letting Tom handle it for you. This is information they will need for their own personal health records, but that can wait until later. And please stop thinking that this is messing up Colleen's week/schedule. She is there because she loves her mama and wants to be there.

((((((Anniekins)))))

Btw, have Colleen FB me when you are out of surgery, okay?
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Mon, 09-12-2011 - 11:27pm

Okay, thanks. I'm second guessing everything lately.


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Tue, 09-13-2011 - 1:24am

I think it depends on what kind of relationship you have with your siblings. My sister and I aren't close, live several states away from each other and don't keep in touch often, so I would tell her in an email after the fact. My brother I'd tell whenever I talked to him again, which isn't often. If you are close to your siblings, though, they might feel hurt that you didn't tell them beforehand. Use your own judgement on how THEY would feel and stop feeling like you're bothering those who love you and care about you!!!

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Tue, 09-13-2011 - 4:10am
That's a difficult question to be answered from an outsider. From experience though: I would contact those who you are really close to and talk to frequently and those that in your heart you know would want to know beforehand. Either Tom or you can call them. If you want to talk to your sister personally than do so, perhaps even a bit of tears over the phone will help you feel better, maybe you just need to get it out. That is normal. If Tom calls , she'd probably ask to speak to you directly or she'd call you back . Even if you got emotional , it doesn't matter, she will understand and maybe it will help you emotionally. Ann, it just depends on your relationship with her (or your brother). Of course if she /he are total "worriers" than wait. My dh's sis is like that, and just cries and carries on for every little thing, so I don't tell her a thing as I don't need her emotional outbursts. KWIM?

As for Colleen. I think she'd feel badly if she heard that you were worried about her messing up her schedule. She's including you in her schedule as she wants to be there, offering her help and a big hug afterwards. It's normal, just ACCEPT that OK? Let her baby you . We're all thinking about you and I'm sure TWOKI will post news on the SB after Collen FB's her.
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Tue, 09-13-2011 - 6:54am
neverstopping wrote:

I think it depends on what kind of relationship you have with your siblings. My sister and I aren't close, live several states away from each other and don't keep in touch often, so I would tell her in an email after the fact. My brother I'd tell whenever I talked to him again, which isn't often. If you are close to your siblings, though, they might feel hurt that you didn't tell them beforehand. Use your own judgement on how THEY would feel and stop feeling like you're bothering those who love you and care about you!!!


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Tue, 09-13-2011 - 7:08am

twig04 wrote:
That's a difficult question to be answered from an outsider. From experience though: I would contact those who you are really close to and talk to frequently and those that in your heart you know would want to know beforehand. Either Tom or you can call them. If you want to talk to your sister personally than do so, perhaps even a bit of tears over the phone will help you feel better, maybe you just need to get it out. That is normal. If Tom calls , she'd probably ask to speak to you directly or she'd call you back . Even if you got emotional , it doesn't matter, she will understand and maybe it will help you emotionally. Ann, it just depends on your relationship with her (or your brother). Of course if she /he are total "worriers" than wait. My dh's sis is like that, and just cries and carries on for every little thing, so I don't tell her a thing as I don't need her emotional outbursts. KWIM?

As for Colleen. I think she'd feel badly if she heard that you were worried about her messing up her schedule. She's including you in her schedule as she wants to be there, offering her help and a big hug afterwards. It's normal, just ACCEPT that OK? Let her baby you . We're all thinking about you and I'm sure TWOKI will post news on the SB after Collen FB's her.

My siblings are close (I think) but


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Tue, 09-13-2011 - 7:26am
you said something to Donna, which I can totally relate too. OK so perhaps some may think me a bit "off" but I talk to my mom all the time and I tell her things I need to get off my chest and I feel better afterwards. I know she's listening to me from above.
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Tue, 09-13-2011 - 7:30am

Nice to know I'm not the only one who talks to people who've passed on. I just hope they're listening.


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Tue, 09-13-2011 - 7:31am
I truly believe they listen. (maybe more than they did before LOL).
what are you doing today Ann?
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Tue, 09-13-2011 - 9:52am
wordyone wrote:
neverstopping wrote:

I think it depends on what kind of relationship you have with your siblings. My sister and I aren't close, live several states away from each other and don't keep in touch often, so I would tell her in an email after the fact. My brother I'd tell whenever I talked to him again, which isn't often. If you are close to your siblings, though, they might feel hurt that you didn't tell them beforehand. Use your own judgement on how THEY would feel and stop feeling like you're bothering those who love you and care about you!!!

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