Thinkin of canceling Turkey Day here.......

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Thinkin of canceling Turkey Day here.......
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Tue, 11-15-2011 - 7:14am

I just plain don't feel like doing it all !!!!

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Tue, 11-15-2011 - 9:01am

((((BUNNY))))

I don't see anything wrong with canceling if the day stresses you out.

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Tue, 11-15-2011 - 10:56am

..It is not that I don't get pleasure out of it.....it does not stress me out....DH does...NOT cooking...I love cooking .....I just plain don't feel like doing it this year....prob cuz I don't feel well.

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Registered: 03-20-2001
Tue, 11-15-2011 - 1:14pm

Bunny you are not a bad mother. I personally think (and everyone can gasp when I say it) but I think that after all you've been thru and are going thru right now that it's time that someone else step up and offer to stage the dinner and invite you adn your dh as a guest. I have been also very tired and stressed in the past months and so that's why I took the bull by the horns and just booked us places at the Marriot Hotel,, they have a lovely dinner. I didn't ask anyone just did it. Everyone wants to come? Good . No one wants to come with me ? Good... I'm going and that's that. 33 years of cooking the meal, I need a break. Stand your ground. Be nice to yourself.

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Tue, 11-15-2011 - 2:53pm

BUNNY...Oh, gosh, I so understand how you must be feeling. I reached my can't do it anymore about two years ago. Fortunately, my DD2 does our holidays at her home now. DD1's home is too small, so we pitch in with foods. Holidays don't have to be on the actual day. Many times we've had ours the day after or even longer. One Christmas, we had it a whole month later for that was the only time we all could get together. With divorce and other families and remarriage and other families there and with inlaws and such, it's complicated sometimes; but we manage and when we do get together, it's the best!! It's always a huge bonus when we can have it on the actual holiday day!

With you, though, things are different now. You're not feeling well enough to do it, so don't. Your kids know you're not feeling well, so either they will take over or it won't happen. Tell them nicely and let them figure out how they want to do it. The baton has been passed!!

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Tue, 11-15-2011 - 2:56pm

Bunny, you are not a bad mother/grandmother/person for doing something for yourself.


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Tue, 11-15-2011 - 4:29pm

If you don't feel well and just plain don't feel like doing Thanksgiving at your house then don't do it. Your family may not be happy which is understandable, but they should also be understanding and accepting that you just don't feel up to doing it this year.

No, Bunny you are not being a bad mother/grandmother.

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Tue, 11-15-2011 - 11:45pm

why go through the trouble of dinner if you don't feel good...besides the girls all eat at inlaws. maybe just have everyone over for dessert? ALOT less stresssful.

sure hope you feel better soon!

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Registered: 03-20-2001
Wed, 11-16-2011 - 4:47am
Oh Great idea Pat! Never gave that a thought , just doing the dessert. Well it is difficult when the kids "have" to do 2 Tday meals on the same day. I've never had relatives from both sides on the same continent (LOL) so had no problem. I remember my brother who married a local gal and then moved to his job which was a good 5 hour drive away. First they had to drive home and then they had to do the noontime meal at her parents and then a 5 pm meal at our house. Thinking back , that must have been is so difficult for them and my 4 nephews.
Your evening Tday dessert idea at my parents house would have been marvelous... it wouldn't have made it lonely at my home as my nana was always there with us.
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Registered: 03-20-2001
Wed, 11-16-2011 - 5:03am

OH too funny about Colleen's MIL's SIL.

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Wed, 11-16-2011 - 10:06am
twig04 wrote:

OH too funny about Colleen's MIL's SIL.


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