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I wouldn't feel cheap getting a $10 gift , especially since that's the price THEY have set!
If there are ever strings attached to a gift, please make sure you put it in the card so the recipient can decide if they can accept the strings or would rather return the gift.
If those gifts were given with the intent and understanding that in better financial times, they would reciprocate with higher priced gifts, they should have known in advance so they could return the gift or agree to and abide by the financial gift giving agreement.
If you can truly give a gift from your heart and feel that $10 is appropriate, by all means do it. If they have a problem with it, shame on them.
If a gift is given and there is the expectation of a thank you card, a judgement anywhere on anyone for not sending the thank you card, that gift was given with an expectation and isn't truly a gift. It's a payment for something in return and needs to be made clear. The silent expectations and judgements attached to gift giving comes nowhere from the heart of gift giving.
I think that you should give a gift that is something that suits the recipient, that you think they would like. You get to set the dollar value. I understand the frustration of having given expensive gifts over the years while receiving nothing in return, and when they finally start gifting the gifts don't match what you think they can afford.