Accused of Being Petty and Scrooge Like
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Accused of Being Petty and Scrooge Like
| Mon, 12-26-2011 - 2:43pm |
For the pass 25 years my 2 sisters and I who reside in the same state have had our own family tradition of spending Xmas together.
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JMHO.
San
I had issues with family and I'm curious why you thought this was okay?? Did you have a little bit of regret?? Your niece made a decision that she felt was right for her family...may e she was embarrassed or she was afraid her children would continue bullying your son but in the end she made what she thought was the right decision. How could you not respect that even if you disagreed with it??
If your goal was to continue an issue, you succeeded.
I did respect her decision and did not and would not have said anything about them not coming. It was my sister who made an issue of it by asking for gifts that were not given. It was not up to her or her place to ask about gifts. If we had had gifts to give her grand children we would have sent them.
It was my sister who put us on the spot and drew atttention to the fact they were not there. A gift is something that is given freely and should not be asked for, especially not by someone else. The kids probably were not expecting anything since they were not there to receive it. It was their grandmother asking about it and that's what I have a problem with. Half the time she forgets my son's birthday and says I'm going to
My niece was the one who excluded them, by staying away. If she had wanted them included in the gift giving then she would have brought them to the celebration. Plus this is not my niece doing the asking it was their grandmother as far as I know she did not expect anyting from us.
No, I was not trying to continue anything. We give money gifts
I think its okay that you didn't give gifts to the greatnieces/nephews who were not there, regardless of why they didn't attend. We've done that with with dh's extended family. And it was tacky of your sister to ask for their gifts.
Do those kids or their mom usually give you a gift when you are together on Christmas?
Did she say those words to you?
Regardless, it was tacky for her to ask you for the money gifts.
This sounds bad....gifts are given with no expectation of anything in return. This line makes it sound like a power play. If you haven't given in the past gifts if they didn't show up then this is the way it's been.
Only you know your pure motives here.
San
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